BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Ruby

BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Ruby

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Ruby Davies
Miss Ruby Ray
Age • 20

“I started to feel lonely, an emotion I hadn’t felt in my teens. ”  

In the final year of my degree, I have discovered that I can achieve the aims and aspirations I had in my teens.

My best friends from University have left to go on a year abroad, leaving me without the social comfort blanket that I had become so accustomed to.

Living away from my family and now being without the close friendships I had made at uni, I started to feel lonely, an emotion I hadn’t felt in my teens. Although, this experience of no longer having my set friendship group near me has let me experience what it’s like to act independently.

I finally joined my first society at university, something that I had always wanted to do, but not without my friends. This has led to me mixing in different social groups, creating new friendships by myself.

Last year I was beginning to doubt that I had the potential to achieve my dreams, I have always wanted to be a journalist, but thought I wouldn’t be able to achieve this. BEING Young & Twenty has given me the confidence to go out and realize my potential, and I was accepted on an MA journalism course.

No longer having the social crutch of my friends has given me more free time, which I used to start my own blog. This was always something I said I wanted to do in my teens, but now in my 20’s I have finally put into practice.

BEING Young & Twenty means being independent.

BEING Young & Twenty means achieving the dreams you set in your teens.

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Love & Lust • Dating’s A Numbers Game

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“Keep waiting for someone willing to figure out your connect-the-dots.”

They always say that dating’s a numbers game.

This leaves NO hope for the heart that can’t settle. You pass on the dates and the tempting plea’s, but once in a while,  you see someone you want. You forfeit your emotions and more-often-than-not, you get nothing in return.

No love. No attention. No ‘happily ever after’.

But,

keep holding out.
Keep waiting for someone worth loving.
Keep waiting for someone willing to figure out your connect-the-dots.
Keep waiting for someone ready to help live out your dreams.

One day (someone) WILL put an end to your doubts.

One day you will look into someone’s eyes and when you see where you stand with them – the thought of standing alone will never again make sense.


This image was illustrated in collaboration with Lemon Chicken Por Favor

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BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Victoria

BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Victoria

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Victoria Heath
SAFAR The Journey
Age • 25

“My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 10 years now. Only recently, however, has our relationship been more defined and strained by our identities: He’s Pakistani and Muslim, I’m American and Christian.”

My 20’s has been a whirlwind of truths – and I’m only halfway through.

The most damning truth I’ve learned is that we are all capable of intolerance and from the moment we open our eyes to this complex yet beautiful world, we are taught to trust those who are like us and be wary of those who are not.

When I was 12, I moved to Saudi Arabia with my dad and brother from North Carolina.

Before moving, I can’t remember ever meeting a non-Christia or even a non-white person. As a kid though, the ignorance and lack of worldly experience didn’t really matter. I quickly adjusted to life in Saudi Arabia and even fell in love with it – and with someone, as shocking as that may be.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 10 years now. We are high school sweethearts and pushed through a 4-year, long-distance relationship during college. Somehow, we even manipulated fate to both end up living as expats in Canada.

Only recently, however, has our relationship been more defined and strained by our identities: He’s Pakistani and Muslim, I’m American and Christian.

The latter half of my 20’s will be an exhausting trek navigating my family, my nationality, my identity and my relationship.

But I know I’m not alone, because we are all affected now by politics that have become so personal they are impossible to avoid. The key is to not only be true to your beliefs,  but to continuously seek education and rational optimism in order to trump the irrational fear and misinformation that has permeated our daily lives.

BEING Young and Twenty means realizing life’s truths, and choosing whether-or-not to accept the world as it is, or to challenge convention. I’ve chosen the latter.

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BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Ellen

BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Ellen

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Oh Hey Ellen
Oh Hey Ellen
Age •23

“As more of your friends start moving onto exciting adventures you begin to panic about what you should do.”

BEING Young & Twenty means change.

After graduating from university, I remember feeling overwhelmed by what lay ahead.

I was 23 and I’d always believed that by this point life would be sorted – I would know exactly what I was doing. But, for the first time in my life, I didn’t have something education-y coming up in September.

Suddenly, there is the pressure of finding a job or your own place.

As more of your friends start moving onto exciting adventures you begin to panic about what you should do. It’s easy to start feeling disheartened, and looking back on the summer between university and work I think I would have benefitted from the following advice:

  • See the fact that you don’t have a plan for the first time in your life as an amazing opportunity to do something you’ve always wanted – travel the world! The world is your oyster!
  • If you try something out, be it a new job or even a new sport, and it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t matter! You learn from it and you move on.
  • To me, work seemed like the end of ‘fun’. I thought it meant commuting and sitting in front of a computer all day. But it’s not like that at all, you’re learning every day and you meet so many new people – it’s exciting. If you wake up dreading work each day it’s not the job for you.
  • All those friends you met at school have now been your friends for 10 years. Think how many memories you have together and how lucky you are – be happy that you’ve got all of this.

But finally and perhaps most importantly – it will all work out. It really will.

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BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Zeena

BEING Young & Twenty Submission • Zeena

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Zeena Garnett
A Black Girl About Town
Age • 25

“It was KFC and I was making just over minimum wage – but it was putting cash in my pocket. I wasn’t always grateful because I felt like I should’ve been further in life.”

BEING Young & Twenty means you don’t have it figured out.

That’s okay!

Some days, you may feel like you have all your ducks in a row and other times, it can feel like you’re barely keeping your head above water.

Again, that’s okay!

You’re not a failure if you don’t make the Forbes List by 21, or become the Head of a big company by 25. Everything is a process and greatness takes time.

After I graduated college, I needed a job.

My former boss was gracious enough to re-hire me. It was KFC and I was making just over minimum wage, BUT it was putting cash in my pocket. I wasn’t always grateful because I felt like I should’ve been further in life.

I remember waiting for the bus one night after work and seeing a girl who I’d gone to college with. I was so embarrassed of her seeing me in my KFC uniform that I didn’t speak. I pretended not to see her. Here I was with a degree, working at a fast-food joint. What happened to my big plans? Surely she’d go back and talk about me to all of our mutual acquaintances.

The big picture is that we all have our own journey and that job was just a stepping stone on my journey. It may not have been ideal but having that experience is part of the reason I am the woman that I am today.

It’s part of the reason that I can sit here and tell someone else that it’ll be okay.

You’ll be fine.

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