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We’re forced to compare ourselves to the glamorized lives of social media when really, we need the truth. We need to believe in the struggles that lead to triumph. The sense of confusion we can find in others &  the misguided path that leads us through life. We need to address the truth behind the twenties. The things we overcome,  the perspectives we gain & the inner daemons we’re forced to face.

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Be a part of the journey to raise awareness about the
stigma of a less than perfect mind.

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I’m a twenty-three year old girl writing about the struggles of my love life, self-discovery and bottomless mind. This blog is for the times your inner voice becomes unbearable. When no one understands what you’re going through and no one tries. A blog for the times you search chat rooms and books, desperate to find reassurance that you’re not alone. The times you’ve shared your deepest, loneliest feelings and no one took your hand, and said me too. Sometimes our families don’t understand, our friends don’t have time and our voice shakes too much to turn thoughts into words. We try to make sense of the world while we try to make sense of ourselves and that’s an impossible thing to do alone.


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533 Comments

  1. Have you ever been told you’re an old soul? Being able to admit you’re on a journey of self-discovery is something many in your generation won’t own–they’d much rather be given the acceptable social acceptance that managed social media brings. Love your honesty. Appreciate your heart to know truth. Comparison is part of our human condition–that and thinking we’ve got control over anything. Thanks for your positive attitude and hopefulness. God alone knows we all need to hear more of that continually–that we have choices and can care about the stories of others as well as just focusing on self. Way to go, Jennifer!

    • My blog has definitely connected me to a few of those comments – so thank you! I truly believe I’ve just been given a unique outlook (or many not, having found so many people who can relate) Thank you so much for reading but more so for the positive comment. It sounds like you’ve found the good in life as well.

  2. This has been exactly the reason why I label myself The Unwanted Girl . Thanks for sharing . Sometimes , the assurance that you are not alone who face the same situation as you face in life , can mean so much to lessen the pain you’ll feel along the way :)
    Thank You for existing :)

    • Thank you for leaving such a kind message, Stephany! ( I love how you spell your name ps ) I’m so glad you agree with the importance of finding others who can relate and make you feel not so alone in this crazy, life journey. I hope I’ll hear from you again on mine! :)

  3. Thank you for sharing what you are going through so others will know they are not alone. This is what I went through in my 20s. If I knew many others had felt the same way, I would have felt a little better back then. To cope, I wrote a lot (poems, journals, songs, etc.) and found ways to help others. I hope your life journey will find answers for you.

    • Thank you so much for reading! That’s great to hear you found your own ways of coping. Needless to say writing and blogging has become mine. I truly appreciate hearing that I could make the twenties a little more survivable for someone reading. Thank you, again :)

  4. As you age you will find that things don’t change much! You’ll still be looking for answers and someone who cares. Don’t worry, it’s not all bad. In a few years you’ll discover you truly don’t care what others think or are doing. You’ll wear whatever style you like, eat what you enjoy, and laugh at whatever tickles your fancy. You have to be happy with your life and not try to live it to make others happy.

    • Thank you for such kind words! I’m learning to become far more comfortable with the idea of the unknown and it has truly helped me live a happier life. I hope to hear from you again! Keep up your own blogging journey :)

  5. What a beautiful message, and I totally agree. We need to get the message out there, so that the world sees the pain and struggles, not some perfect fair tale that doesn’t exist. Sorry for the delay in comment, but I am new to blogging.

    • Thank you, Susan & welcome to blogging! I’m so glad you agree with my message and I hope you’re able to share your own through your own writing :)

  6. I couldn’t agree more. We just wrote an article on the late Madison Holleran and can’t help but wonder how many others are masking their issues via social media. I love your mission — spread it!
    – Emily

  7. …”when really, we need truth…” Love this! I’m no longer in my 20’s, but still have many of the same struggles as my mind doesn’t like it that my body is 45. As the hair fades & grays & the lines deepen on my face, I find that I am asking God to help me do this aging thing gracefully & with a grateful heart. And then all the social stuff…and world issues…etc…I have learned to rest in Him, and know that He’s there to navigate it all…and I find I even enjoy much more than I once did. Thanks for posting this.

    • Thank you!! Majority of my comments seem to come from those beyond their twenties, which makes me so happy as hindsight is amazing. Thank you for taking the time to read my page and leaving such an inspiring message :)

  8. You voiced what so many young persons needed someone to put into words for them. That takes the same courage that will find your role, the one that brings joy to you and others.
    This from a fellow in his nineties.
    Continue being brave.

    • I needed to hear it myself. It’s been unexpected to see how many people need to as well. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and leave such a kind comment. All the best! :)

  9. Your blog is elegant and thought provoking. It has taken me many more decades to find my writing groove and get perspective in my life. I admire your bravery in revealing yourself to the world. I moved to a third world country in a war zone in my 40s and felt so liberated despite how hard life was. I moved to the US from there and all the same worries about appearance and societal norms came back. With support from professionals and loved ones, I found my way back to being comfortable with who I am. Life is fun in my 50s and ironically I look better than I ever did. Compassion and laughter makes everyone attractive.

    • Thank you so much, Kerry! It’s been amazing to hear that my thoughts and words can connect with those beyond their twenties. It’s great to hear you’ve found comfort with yourself – thank you so much for sharing your story and leaving such a positive message! :)

  10. Thank you for taking the time to read my own journey and for commenting. First of all, ‘lacking fulfillment’ is an incredibly true statement and what I’m still going through myself. Unfortunately we’re searching for a way to survive before searching for ourselves. It seems like in these years, it’s so important to have people who understand when we need them close, and when we need them to back up a little.

  11. My experience and worldview are so different from what you have and so many others as evidenced by comments to your blog. So many of your generation seem at loose ends and lacking fulfillment. I have a beautiful, smart 21 year granddaughter who would probably identify with you. She lives 1500 miles from me in Florida. She is plugging away at college and I believe she will finish. We FB occasionally to say I love You, but we share almost nothing. For the first decade of her life, she was my heart beat. Can you tell me what she is thinking? And tell me how to tell her what I am thinking?

  12. You are not alone billions are trailing behind you being in the same boat. Positiveness wins over negativeness. Always be positive.Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  13. It’s amazing that you’re on your journey of self-discovery in your twenties. Many people don’t embark on this until much later. Wishing you success on your journey!

    • I’ve heard that! I’m thankful I’ve stumbled upon self-discovery at this age but it also makes it hard for myself to relate with others and reverse. I appreciate the comment. Thank you :)

    • I appreciate you taking the time to check out my blog and not judge it based on it’s target to the ‘twenties’. I hope I’ll hear from you again and I do plan to continue writing. Thank you so much! :)

  14. Hi, Jennifer! That’s an amazing blog you have there, and what I like about it is how it motivates others, including me. I really enjoy reading your blog. Stay blessed!!!

  15. Jennifer: such an incredibly heartfelt mission you have written which literally reached into my heart and soul. I too, was diagnosed when I was only 20 and truly relate to what you wrote. Keep your chin up, wake up every morning with a smile that today will be a better day than yesterday.

    • Unfortunately you’re Anonymous but, thank you so much. That means a lot! It’s been amazing to find so many people who can relate and my entire Young & Twenty journey have helped me (so far) through the struggle of the 20’s. Thank you again for taking the time to read and comment. I hope I’ll hear from you again :)

  16. Thanks for reading regardless of the ‘twenties’ theme, Kevin! It’s been great to hear how many people before and beyond this age can relate. Hope to hear your perspective on future posts :)

  17. I’m a 52 year old man and I can relate to some of what you are saying about reassurances that I not alone in my struggles in life. So my young friend, I assure you that you are not alone.

  18. Even when we cannot find others that understand the thoughts that we have, looking at them ourselves is always a learning experience, even though painful at times.

    • That’s such a great perspective, Vanessa! Of course it’s hard to tell others to survive their feelings alone, for I’ll admit I once wasn’t strong enough to do that and I’m so fortunate for the people around me who helped. Thank you for taking the time to comment :)

  19. No matter what age you’re at, these beautiful thoughts of yours will continue to rise and this is what makes life a gift. I wrote the following when I was your age, and five decades later, I am still voicing this:

    “Other people,”
    “Other men,”
    “They” and “someone”
    And “everyone else.”
    How very simple
    To become “them.’
    But my voice
    Will not allow
    Such migration
    Of my soul.

    Be true to yourself and you just go clinging to that self.

    • I truly look forward to what’s to come – so I appreciate that! I love that entire post. I hope others will read it as well :)

  20. Thank you, “youngandtwenty” for your kinds words for my new posting. If anyone is interested, U can find me at https://adman4u.wordpress.com. I, others, love your style. Certainly appreciate your “journey of struggles.” I hope they become less difficult as you move into your 30s. As you progress, you might find a new “self” in your 50s (as one commentor stated). Trust me, it can still happen in one’s 70’s. I think I will hang with you to watch your growth. Hope you don’t mind?

    • I appreciate you taking the time to checking out my blog and commenting! I look forward to following your own journey. The more I’ve found self-confidence and realization, the less difficult things have become so I look forward to the years leading up to my 30’s.. Thank you so much for sharing your own journey. I’ll remember to embrace the change and remember that no matter my age, I still have the ability to. I certainly hope you’ll stick around! I look forward to hearing from you again :)

  21. Glad you are doing this in your 20’s. I am a late bloomer doing it in my 50’s. I feel so alive and free now. I feel power in my own essence. IT is great to be alive and I did not feel that way for many years of my life.

    • Thank you! I I feel so fortunate to have found such a sense of self in my 20’s but I’m aware that I still have a lot more to discover. I’m so glad to hear you sound your sense of power. I appreciate you taking the time to comment :)

  22. Your site is great and very honest
    I feel the same way too, i don’t fit in
    and struggle to understand people and the world
    I’ve never followed the crowd.

    • I appreciate that, ‘snarling fox’! It’s amazing to see how many more people understand than don’t. It’s been pretty therapeutic for me so I’m so glad to hear my honest is apparent to everyone reading :) Glad to hear you never followed the crowed. Keep doing you!

  23. Hello I really appreciate you sharing your life experiences . I love learning about people s interventions , I like the way you express yourself. I will keep in touch and hopefully in the near future look forward to help you with your funds. Pleasure meeting you thank you.

    • Thank you for taking the time to say that. I truly appreciate it. I hope to hear from you in the future as well. I’d especially love to hear your thoughts on further posts! 😀

  24. You wrote that so beautifully. I am glad you liked my post so I could follow you back to yours!!!! I just finished blooging101 and everything I was taught makes so much sense now that I am getting out there.

    • I appreciate you taking the time to read it! Thank you :) I’m excited to see what you do with Blogging 101 behind you. Stay posted, I hope to post a Blogging 101 post myself :)

  25. I can’t wait to read more! I saw you liked one of my recent posts so I checked out your blog. I love it! :)

  26. “We’re forced to compare ourselves to the glamorized lives of social media when really, we need the truth”

    nah, turn social media
    off
    you dont need it
    it needs you

    thanks

    • That’s such a simple solution to ‘turn it off’ First of all, that can trigger a lot of feelings of loneliness and being left out. Second of all, we live in a society where like it or not, social media has dominated our way of living and thinking. It’s within our food, our clothes, every shopping experience, every news report, every emotional experience. One can not just ‘turn social media off’. One cannot live with the mentality, “as long as I don’t see it, it’s not there”. We will always be forced to compare our lives to better.

  27. Importantly, it is not that your parents or older acquaintances don’t understand, they don’t remember that they do understand. I am on the other end of the age spectrum, and have been spending time trying to recall the trials and uncertainties–and there were many. If you are interested in a senior’s perspective on growing up, maturing, I invite you to look at some of my earlier blogs. Most of all, push on!

    • I understand that they do understand, as I’m others do to, I think it’s just harder to convince ourselves to truly believe it. Maybe we prefer not too. I will be sure to look at some of your earlier blogs. I hope you’ll continue to share your perspective here :)

    • Thank you so much, Sofia! I will of course take a look and mention it on my ‘Awards’ page. It’s always great to be nominated but hearing that my blog can inspire you is even better. It seems you do the same for others so, congratulations:)

  28. I just finished reading two books by Brene Brown (see also TED talks). She researches the effects of media and cultural pressures on our sense of normalcy and self, how to develop internal resilience, and how to be our authentic selves. I’m 50, but I’m still 20, and 30, and 40, and 10. Thanks, and best wishes.

  29. Sometimes our families don’t understand, our friends don’t have time and our voice shakes too much to turn thoughts into words. We try to make sense of the world while we try to make sense of ourselves and that’s an impossible thing to do alone.

    amen amen amen..Just got off the phone with a ‘warrior sister’, someone that joined me on this journey of life a few years back through finding a blog of mine…As she told me today when she ‘introduced’ me to her sister..’your going to really like her, she’s just like us’. The knowledge of knowing we TRULY are not alone..sigh sigh sigh..what joy♥ You may be young and twenty but girl, your gloriously beautiful with the heart that you share with us all here.♥ blessings.♥

    • So glad you can relate! It sounds like you have a very encouraging sister beside you on your journey which is great to hear. Thank you for sharing :)

      • I actually don’t have a physical, blood sister but I call it heart to heart,warrior sisters♥ I got me some fierce awesome powerful loving and amazing warrior sisters, linking arm in arm together♥I consider you a mighty warrior sister Giving others encouragement and inspiration to keep on going when they are ready to wave the white flag of defeat.

  30. I’m a 38 year old male, feelings and expressing them for a man is so difficult in todays society. I have a fantastic wife, a loving daughter and a few fantastic friends. I could count the number of close friends on half of 1 hand. Being male and trying to get people to understand the mental changes that we go through is very difficult. I’ve only just discovered that I’m normal and it’s classed as “being an introvert”. I thought I was on the verge of being depressed, or was suffering from male PMS (it does exist), but I now know it’s time for me to recharge. But all I can say, is that anyone who runs a home, runs their own business and absorbs everyone else’s personal issues has their own issues, and the best way to deal with them is to seek out those special people who are willing to listen, and then life gets better.

    • That’s the greatest part about blogging. Getting to hear others stories, because that’s not a perspective I’ve ever seen society or mental health from. So, I appreciate you sharing. I’m an Introvert as well and naturally with being alone, we’re left with our thoughts. It all seems to work out and leaves us with a great perspective on life and ourselves. Great end message, ‘life gets better’. Thank you :)

  31. So glad you know your voice. Your writing is definitely inspirational stuff and I’m happy to see how many people agree, more than anything I know the catharsis that comes with getting the heavy out and you’ve found such a great outlet. Thanks for finding me, it’s a pleasure to find you in return :)

    • Thank you! It’s been an incredible time finding my voice and even more so, sharing it with others. I appreciate you taking the time to comment. I hope to hear from you again :)

  32. Hello. Thanks for dropping by. Love your mission statement btw. It’s exactly how I felt when I was in my 20s only blogging was not an option yet. Isn’t that why we blog – to share our innermost, deepest thoughts and feelings without condemnation?

    • I’m so glad you took the time to check out my page. I think that is why we blog! I know it’s still hard for others to be completely open online, but it’s such a great community to be apart of.

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