We’re forced to compare ourselves to the glamorized lives of social media when really, we need the truth. We need to believe in the struggles that lead to triumph. The sense of confusion we can find in others &  the misguided path that leads us through life. We need to address the truth behind the twenties. The things we overcome,  the perspectives we gain & the inner daemons we’re forced to face.

Be a part of the journey to raise awareness
about the stigma of a
less than perfect mind.

I’m a twenty-three year old girl writing about the struggles of my love life, self-discovery and bottomless mind. This blog is for the times your inner voice becomes unbearable. When no one understands what you’re going through and no one tries. A blog for the times you search chat rooms and books, desperate to find reassurance that you’re not alone. The times you’ve shared your deepest, loneliest feelings and no one took your hand, and said me too.

Sometimes our families don’t understand, our friends don’t have time and our voice shakes too much to turn thoughts into words. We try to make sense of the world while we try to make sense of ourselves and that’s an impossible thing to do alone.

– Jennifer

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      1. I cound’nt find the comment button on this post.
        “A blog for the times you search chat rooms and books, desperate to find reassurance that you’re not alone. The times you’ve shared your deepest, loneliest feelings and no one took your hand, and said me too.”- Amen to that sister.

  1. I just found your blog and I’m just IN LOVE with it. Your words match each other perfectly and everything just fits and it’s so, so, so relateable. I can’t even explain what I feel right now but let’s call it ADMIRATION AT FIRST READ. You’re wonderful and thanks for writing (your posts actually made my day today).

    1. I have so much appreciation for that comment, thank you so much! I’ve been overwhelmed with how many people can relate to my writing but I can never hear enough how many people can get something out of it. I hope I can keep your feelings of admiration strong!

  2. “A blog for the times you search chat rooms and books, desperate to find reassurance that you’re not alone.” I am so glad you found my blog because if you hadn’t, who knows how long it would’ve taken me to find yours. You’re wonderful :)

  3. I completely agree that social media glamourises life. It creates a filter where everyone’s life seems wonderful, and I think many often forget that it is just exactly that, a filter. I find it often leads to questioning whether I’m on the right path – whether I should have made my decisions differently – instead of just appreciating the life you are currently living.

    1. Thank you for sharing! It’s great to hear people’s perspectives on these topics. I agree, people knowingly use their social media accounts to prove to classmates and friends that they’re ‘successful’ and ‘happy’, so we can’t see the sadness behind the pictures.

  4. I just fell in love with your blog. Never stop writing, you are amazing. Thank you for posting on my blog & letting me know, you are a wonderful person.

  5. You write beautifully, with sincere simplicity. Thank you for sharing the chaos in your mind and your soul. We really do all feel the same emotions and tackle the same obstacles. Your words make it clear that I am not alone in my darkness, and I am not alone in my light. XOXO

    1. I truly appreciate you taking the time to say that! I never realized how many people are trapped in their minds until I started this blog so to hear that I’m making at least the smallest difference, is all I could ask for. So, thank you!

  6. Hi,
    I have been asked to be a part of a tour blog, would you be interested in participating too?
    It consists of answering four questions on your writing process, those questions being:
    1.) What am I working on at the moment?​
    2.) How does my work differ from others of its genre?
    3.) Why do I write what I do?
    4.) How does my writing process work?
    I would do a post on Monday June 16 answering the questions and then I would give a link to your site and the two others participating, then you would find three or two other bloggers to participate and then you would do the same thing the following Monday with your answers and the three other blogs you had participate and a link back to my site. Almost like an award but no award except getting yourself out there for others to see more about the way you write ,etc…
    It would be great if you could participate, let me know if you’re interested.

  7. I’m in love with this blog! Your words are so comforting. I may not be in my 20’s yet but, I’ve always been more mature and dealt with things at a younger age than my peers. Thank you so much for your words!

    1. I’ve found that a lot of people who haven’t reached their 20’s yet can relate which is great! You sound like you have a lot of self awareness that will hopefully do you good in these challenging years. Thank you for reading :)

  8. …so let’s commit ourselves to never wasting an opportunity to say “Tell me about it…” We are here to love one another, and to find creative ways to express it. Thank you for sharing your creative expression :)

    1. I completely agree with finding a way to express ourselves! I wrote a post about telling your tragedy because it’s amazing the different ways people can convey their history and their struggles. Thank you so much for reading and sharing that :)

  9. In dating and life, we certainly encounter numerous obstacles and many times we fall down. But, the true test of ourselves is our ability to learn from our experiences and change those things we are able to change in order to go forward, do better, and attract the right kind of people and men in our lives. Great post and I look forward to reading much more!

    1. You have a great outlook, thank you so much for sharing. I think it still surprises us when life throws us curveballs but what a relief it will be when things finally start to settle into place. I hope you’ve found more to relate to around my blog!

  10. I love what you said about, “…no one took your hand, and said me too.” Such a true statement. I am so glad you liked a post on my blog and I found yours. I just moved into college last Wednesday and it is a completely new life. I have a feeling your blog will come in handy :)

    1. I always looked for a blog like this but couldn’t seem to find one that said what I needed to hear, so I decided to write one myself. I’m so glad you took the time to checkout my page because I honestly hope it can help you through the rollercoaster of your following years. Thank you for taking the time to comment, enjoy your college experience!

  11. I read one of the post and thought I’d just find out who on earth is writing all this. And I was reading your about page and my heart went still, like a peaceful still! Thank you for being bold to share those inner thoughts and feelings that I am not bold enough to share.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to say that! I always wanted to read a blog like this but could never find one. Taking it upon myself to write it was hard but is having rewards worth the risk. Looking forward to hearing your opinion on future posts.

      1. :) Well to be honest, I like how concise you are. You are straightforward and with as many followers as you have you obviously are influencing many more people than just myself.

  12. It is rare to find such depth and soul anywhere with anyone. Sometimes we travel great distances and across time to find such soulful persons like yourself. Your words are transcending and finely tuned to the aching, thirsting heart.

    1. Considering I’ve felt so lost in my own mind, that’s an outstanding compliment. It’s been amazing to find others who can really relate to what I say, making this all worth it. Thank you for reading. I look forward to hearing your opinion on future work.

  13. Hello. Thanks for liking “Growing up” on emergingboldly. Do come back and comment on articles there. I started that blog for my nephew, who is bravely finding his way into adulthood with a severe disability. He is bright, funny and outgoing; he is also mediaclly fragile and limited in physical ability. He like all of us, gets to wack his way through the underbrush of discovering what life really is.
    Your blog is strong and powerful. congratulations.

    1. That’s an amazing purpose for a blog you have. They truly are an amazing way to find a voice and for you to do that for your nephew, is such a bold gesture. Thank you so much for taking the time to visit and comment on my blog, I hope you enjoy reading future posts.

  14. Young & Twenty, I can totally relate to what you are experiencing. Although, I am way past my twenties, there was a time in my life when I was in my twenties and I understand exactly what you are talking about. I think your blog is wonderful and needed. I am sure you are helping others along your journey. I also, want to thank you, for reading my blog. I appreciate it! Keep writing, keep growing and most importantly keep being you! :)

    1. I built this blog with intention of ‘twenty-something’s’ relating but I’ve been so excited to find that people younger and older have enjoyed reading. It’s really great to hear others perspectives (especially their hindsight). I appreciate you finding my blog potentially helpful. That really makes it all worth it. Thank you so much for sharing and I look forward to reading more from you :)

  15. You write so beautifully, I have read every single post you got up and it so beautifully written, you definitely have a fan right here..
    Looking forward to reading more from you
    I can’t wait to turn 20 in a couple of months and rather than focus on the negatives, but instead to rather have so much zeal and passion for life as you

    1. wow, thank you so much! I always get sad thinking of the posts that get lost in my achieves as I blog so much, so I appreciate you taking the time to read them all. I hope you continue to find more to relate to and I look forward to reading about your experiences once you enter your twenties!

  16. Chanced upon your blog but really glad to say i love it! Started reading the first post and in the end, unknowingly, I was at the end of your page. :’) Ill be definitely looking forward for more posts!

    1. I’m so glad you came across my blog and took the time to not only read the latest post, but all the way back! I’m always sad thinking of the posts that are lost in achieves so that means a lot. I look forward to hearing from you on future posts!

  17. Hi!

    Thanks for liking my “Going Silver” post.

    I just read this page and the most recent post but I already know I’ll binge read your blog the moment I get home from work. :) I really like your writing style and especially what you write about. You and I seem to be at the same page in life and we both chose writing as an outlet so yeah, definitely coming back.

    Cheers to our 20’s. ^_^


    1. It’s amazing how many people I’ve found who’re in a similar place as me. It’s a comforting thought. I hope you enjoyed the rest of my posts, thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment. Looking forward to reading more from your blog as well :)

  18. Hey. I blog for the same reason you state above. I have just survived my twenties and wish I had started my own blog to help me through them, but it took me until my thirtieth birthday for the need to be great enough that I could no longer ignore. I am always glad to find other female bloggers who can articulate what it is like growing up in this time of social media and immediate communication at all times. I would love it if you might take a look at my blog when you have a chance and I will follow yours now that I have started reading. Take care.

    1. It’s great to hear you’re blogging for such a good purpose. I hope it helps you and your readers! It’s definitely a crazy time to be growing up and such crazy years to be experiencing. I would love to look at your blog and view your perspective. Thanks for the follow!

  19. I’m loving your blog! It’s so down to earth and real. I’m 23 as well, so I’m definitely relating to a lot of your content. There’s just something so authentic in your writing that I find admirable. I hope you can swing by mine and give me some feedback sometime down the line :)

    1. That means a lot, thank you for not only reading but commenting :) Being a ‘twenty-something’ is such a crazy time so I’m so glad my blog has been relatable. I would love to check out your blog, I’m sure it’s great and I hope to hear your opinion/perspective on future posts!

  20. Hi there, thanks for liking my post “Nothing To Do”. Your blog seems really interesting! It’s great that you have something that you enjoy and find solace in it. Know that there are others out there who also share your same experiences, you’re not alone.

    1. You’re welcome! I really enjoyed your post. Thank you for taking the time to checkout my blog and comment. I hope you enjoy future posts and I look forward to hearing from you again :)

      1. Thank you!!! Really it’s been just wonderful to be able to connect with your experiences as I’ve been going through mine. I’m glad I found your blog so lots of love your way! <3

  21. Jennifer, thank you for sharing your thoughts with the world. I found some of your posts catchy, maybe because of all the raw emotions shining through your words.
    Not trying to take away from anything you’ve experienced, but life will somehow find a way to make sense with each passing day. If I were to describe my 20s I’d say: restless/ confused, madly in love, miserably out of love. I’m now in my 40s and the one thing I would tell my younger self would be: follow your dreams. I also wish someone would’ve told me not to be scared.
    On a different note, you’re writing is really good. You have a fresh voice that makes one pause and continue reading till the end. Have you thought of maybe writing a book? As a writer myself I recognize a unique voice when I see (read) one.
    Keep dreaming–no one can take that away from you!

  22. Thank you so much for taking the time to say it. As a writer, you must know better then anyone how it feels to be acknowledged. I had given some thought about writing a book but I hate to say the whole process to be published seemed almost ‘impossible’. As a result, I started my blog which seems like it’s been a great stepping stone. I love how you describe you 20’s, seems pretty accurate and that encouragement to keep going is really inspiring. Again, thank you and I’m excited to read your own writing!

  23. We are both at a beautiful and exciting point in our lives where we are just beginning to find ourselves and understand the world. It is really refreshing to find others who blog about their path of self-discovery rather than worrying about keeping up with whats popular. Love your blog and can’t wait to read more!

    1. Absolutely! It’s amazing finding people in similar situations. That’s the main reason I started this blog, for others stories and support. It’s also been great to find people who have learned that self-discovery starts after your teen years. Thanks for sharing, I hope you keep reading :)

  24. I’m twenty-three, too :) but sometimes my emotions and inner dialogue makes me feel like I’m back to being sixteen or progressing to being forty! What an emotional rollercoaster.

    Btw, thanks for the love on my blog, and I look forward to your future posts!

    1. I absolutely agree! I thought once I got through the teen years, everything would fall into place. It’s comforting to know I wasn’t the only one with that idea. Thank you for reading :) I hope to hear from you again.

  25. Hi,
    Just to let you know, I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. I really enjoy your posts! If you’re interested in accepting the award, check out my blog post about it!
    Thanks for your blog!


  26. Sometimes when the voices in your head seem over-bearing, its good to know that even laying out your thoughts on paper, no matter how random they are, will soon make sense when you see them on paper or the screen.

    I understand why people used to keep diaries back in the day and blogs now. Sometimes I start writing a blog post asking question, only to have answered it by the time I’ve finished the ending. :)

    1. That’s very well said! I’m glad you can agree with my idea. I was surprised how much writing (and more specifically, blogging) has helped with my anxiety and general struggles through life. Thank you for sharing! Keep writing :)

  27. Thank you for the like! I have read a few posts on your blog and I have really enjoyed them. It’s always great to see mental health being placed out in the open instead of behind closed doors.

    1. Thank you! It’s amazing how much more open I’ve found that people have been about mental health. I really hope my blog can give reassurance to anyone who needs it. I appreciate you taking the time to comment and checkout my blog :)

  28. Thanks for stopping by Artsyberger – I’m meeting so many young people (I’m old) and being reminded how being young = being confused. It’s how nature gets us to explore possibilities.

    1. You’re welcome! Thank you for in turn, stopping by here. You’re not old, you’re older :) It’s always great to hear another perspective to the things I write about so I hope to hear from you on future posts.

  29. First of all, thanks for stopping by my blog :) I’m glad I checked out your blog because I can relate to a lot of the topics you write about, which makes sense as we are the same age. I love meeting others my age (and even those who aren’t my age) who love to write :) I know I’ll be reading your blog with much appreciation!

    1. Thank you! I’m glad I came across your blog as well :) The twenties are such a crazy time, it’s comforting to find others who can relate. I hope to hear your opinion on past/future posts!

  30. Hi I just wanted to say I am loving reading your posts! You have an amazing way of conveying so much, so clearly and succinctly, and so beautifully. I need to go back and read so many of them again – so many gems and insights and wonderful thoughts. Thank you so much for writing!

    1. Thank you so much! That truly means a lot. Writing about these topics really helps me so it’s rewarding to hear that it helps others as well. Please keep reading. I hope to hear from you again :)

    1. I’ll admit my family and friends are really supportive, but that doesn’t mean they always understand. I really enjoyed your poetry, keep it up :) Thank you for stopping by my page!

  31. This. Is. Perfect. Thank you so much for putting this out there (: I think once we hit our twenties and we start to ask around we kind of realize oh, this is how it is. But finding words like these is still so reassuring. I hope to “raise awareness about the stigma of a less than perfect mind” (or body) as well as you’re doing (:

  32. Thanks for visiting my blog! You have a clear mission for yourself and for others. Your writing is personal and welcoming. I applaud what you’re doing–especially for yourself. It’s true (as many above point out): writing helps clarify whatever is going on inside. Going through your 20s is indeed a shock–on top of whatever else you’re dealing with. You deserve all the support you can get.
    Happy to meet you and your blogsite!

    1. You’re welcome! I appreciate you taking the time to visit my blog as well. Writing has truly helped me organize my thoughts and express these feelings I’ve been so unfamiliar with until I entered my twenties. The support I get is overwhelming. Of course, it’s nice to meet you as well. I look forward to hearing from you on recent posts.

  33. I was already older when I started a blog. It was originally a therapeutic thing, as it appears yours is now. It remained for me for about 8 years. I still write one mostly just for the joy of doing it and seeing if maybe I can entertain people.

    As far as life, I am now 40. All the way back to being a disgruntled long-haired, I have had some experiences that seemed insurmountable until they were past. Looking back, the view from on top of the mountain is very enlightening. When I turn around, I see other peaks equally high and intriguing.

    Just two cents from some guy.

    LTjg USN ret.
    MA, BS (not a resume, just a statement about how where we are does not determine where we will be.)

    1. It’s always interesting to get another perspective or an idea of other people’s triumph. I appreciate you taking the time to share! I love your thoughts on the view from the top as I certainly agree.

  34. bless your beautiful beautiful heart. i’m here to say, the twenties were the darkest years. and, moment by moment, faith by faith, light filtered in……

    having truth seekers to lean on along the way makes all the difference. bless your brave soul for speaking truth and saying aloud how wobbly it is….

  35. Thanks for liking my blog. I’m always excited to hear from the younger demographic, so feel free to visit anytime and even share your voice in woman speak:) Your blog is very nice and welcoming.


  36. Been a long long time since I was twenty-three, but some of these feelings never leave us. I think we are always searching. Perhaps just what we search for changes. :) As you noted…we can’t do it completely alone. It’s nice to share thoughts and ideas in WP.

    1. I always appreciate hearing from those who can look back on their twenties with hindsight. So, I hope to hear from you on future posts :) It’s a crazy time but I have found so much comfort in sharing my writing. Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment!

  37. We all have things that drive our passion for blogging. Without it, we would have difficulty finding the proper subjects for each of us. It’s been many years since I was 23. That was a good year, I think…Thanks for stopping by

  38. I discovered your blog the other day and have since been working my way through your posts. Your writing is beautiful. Everything that you write about is something that I have been through and truly understand. The more I read the less alone I feel. Thank you.

    1. I’m so glad you’ve discovered my blog! I appreciate you taking the time to say that. Sometimes hearing that others can relate is the needed motivation to keep going. I hope to hear from you again :)

  39. Hi, I’m so glad you liked a post of mine otherwise I may never of found your blog. The things you write about I can really relate too and its always nice to find people you can trelate too! Keep writing such a brilliant blog x

    1. Thank you! I’m happy to have come across your blog as well :) I appreciate the comment. It’s always encouraging to hear that others can relate. I hope to hear from you on future posts.

    1. Unfortunately, losing my keys is still a frequent problem I have! I guess it does look like nothing compared to the harder questions. Thank you for taking the time to comment. It’s important to remember that hard times do pass.

  40. Sometimes our families don’t understand, our friends don’t have time and our voice shakes too much to turn thoughts into words. We try to make sense of the world while we try to make sense of ourselves and that’s an impossible thing to do alone.


  41. Jennifer, your blog reflects a young woman who is in the progress of self-discovery, identifying your inner and outer realities. May I encourage your to embrace the young woman that you are while totally retaining the childlike, girl, sense of curiosity! May you become a wise woman dancing in girl shoes to the music of your spirit. :) to you, Lynnclaire

    1. I appreciate you taking the time to share such an inspiring comment. It’s been interesting to document my path of self-discovery and but I couldn’t be happier with where I am now. I hope to hear from you again :)

  42. Awesome idea for a blog, Young & Twenty! I follow into that age category as well, and appreciate your willingness to address the stigma. Thanks again, and one little grammar fix in your about page: should be “less THAN perfect mind.”

    Thanks again! RJ

    1. Unfortunately, I’m unable to post all awards but I do acknowledge them under my ‘Accomplishments’. So, thank you for the nomination and congratulations on your own. It’s great to be appreciated :)

  43. Thank you for sharing youngandtwenty , I’m old and in my sixties, when pondering when I was young what I was looking for in friendship, it was about what would I like for others to do for me but later my Best Friend Jesus told me that to give is better than to receive, so I seek to do this now but True friendship can only really mature when both are committed to giving and receiving in Love.

    Christian Love – Anne.

  44. I’m glad I was able to visit your blog as a result. Very impressed with your writing and your willingness to share your emotions. I have to echo some of the other comments here, you
    really are a very good writer.

  45. Thank goodness you started the road to self-discovery early!!! In my twenties I had some reflections, but was not nearly bold enough to actually write about it and share it with the world! Not until my late 20’s anyway… You are doing a great job here! Keep expressing, keep putting your heart into your writing, and that book that you want to write – it’s coming. You are building the steps to it right now! Good luck and blessings in all that you do!

    1. It’s been a crazy (but rewarding) journey that’s for sure! It can be weird putting all these thoughts online but it’s gotten more comfortable. Thank you for taking the time to leave that comment. It’s always nice to hear extra encouragement. I hope I’ll hear from you again.

    1. Although the twenties are turning out to be not all that bad, I’m interested in seeing what the thirties will one day have to offer. Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad you could relate :)

  46. OMG!! I’ve fallen in love with your blog…with the thoughts that you have expressed. Everything Im feeling…as if you’ve reading my journals but just placing everything perfectly in words on your blog. I am truly in love!!!

    1. Thank you so much! That was an amazing – and encouraging – comment to read. It’s given me a lot of closure to find people who can relate so I hope reading my blog can give the same to you. I hope to hear from you on future posts.

  47. It takes courage to tread on the path of self-discovery,I am in my twenties and know that refraining oneself from delusions is difficult,but once you put your foot down many blurred aspects become clear. Best of luck .Thank you for liking my post. I am looking forward to hear from you. :)

    1. “Refraining oneself from delusions” I absolutely love this! It speaks so much truth. Thank you for sharing such a positive message. It’s comforting to find others in their twenties who are finding their own ways to make it through these confusing years. Best of luck on your own journey but I hope to hear from you again!

  48. A truly inspirational blog. I have spent a while reading some of your posts. I hope you continue on your path of self-discovery. I have found that the more you find out the more there is to find out. There should be no upper age limit on self-discovery – I am still striving to know more and understand more and I am 56 years old. There will always be challenges but with an open mind, a willingness to learn and with a little self-knowledge those challenges are not insurmountable. All this will help you in understanding others too. Thank-you so much for visiting my blog and liking my post.

  49. You are very brave to blog about your inner thoughts. It is not always an easy thing to do, but I fully believe that communicating those thoughts to others is an important process. I have suffered through bouts of depression, anxiety, and definitely stress by not having anyone I can really talk to, but I didn’t even realize that there was something wrong with me until I met that person that I could share these thoughts with. Now, I realize that I was merely a shadow of my true self until I started to let my inner thoughts and feelings out. I am glad you decided to like one of my posts on my blog otherwise I never would have discovered yours. Keep up the great work for it will not only help you, but it will help others too.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your own story! Suffering in silence truly seems like the worst thing a person could do and I think that’s why art is such a dominant and important aspect of life. We have to turn the chaos of our mind into something that makes the suffering have worth. Again, I thank you for sharing and I hope you’ve found your blog to be a great way to help yourself and others as well :)

  50. I cannot wait to delve into your blog. Thank you for stopping by mine & taking the time to read. You are amazing and brave to put it all out there. Know that you have already helped someone just by sharing yourself.

    1. Than you so much for checking out my blog and taking the time to comment. You are brave as well for sharing your writing with everyone! Keep up the great work and thank you so much for the support.

  51. Oh my Gosh, I love your blog. I’m also 23 and I can totally relate.

    I still feel like I have more questions about life than answers to be honest. Keep doing what you are doing.

  52. As a parent and grandparent I would say to you that you are never alone, and what you go through has been gone through by millions of others. Each person must make the journey of self discovery and although finding others currently going through what you are going through somehow gives you validation, but too many times those other people don’t have the answers either. Find a person you can embrace and trust, whether a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle, and listen to how they made their way through the gauntlet of young adulthood. God Bless.

    1. Thank you! That is a very encouraging comment to read so I appreciate you taking the time to share it. I have found many people who have helped me through hard times and I admire all of them for their perspective on the world. I’m happy to have found my own way and now, I hope I can help others to find their own. Thank you again, I hope to hear from you on future posts :)

    1. Thank you so much! I’m completely set on the idea that things will be fine, I just hope my experiences can help others to feel the same. I appreciate you sharing such a positive message.

  53. Every decade has something amazing to offer. Enjoy your 20’s and do as much self discovery as your mind will allow. I’m in my 40’s and am, only now, appreciating and owning all of the things I learned in my 20’s and 30’s. In other words – you have lots of good stuff to look forward to :)

    1. That’s definitely something I’ve learned but that’s a great way to put it, “Every decade has something amazing to offer.” Three years into my twenties, I’ll admit I’m finally a lot more excited for my future. Thank you so much for the positive message :)

    1. It’s interesting to hear how much of an impact the twenties have made on people looking back on it. That acts as a constant reminder to make the most of it. I appreciate you sharing – thank you!

  54. Wow! You made me think: I should copy & paste this for my own blog, I sympathize with every word!! Glad I found your blog. Best wishes, Ayeh.

    1. My favourite thing to hear is that one of my posts or pieces of writing could make someone think further into themselves and life. It’s also amazing to see how many of us have similar stories. For that, I appreciate sharing :)

    1. I am truly so fortunate to have found something as healing as this blog. I hope I can inspire others to find a way to deal with their emotions and like I’ve written in a post, ‘to tell their tragedy’. Thank you so much for the positive words!

  55. “Life” is the process of living and each decade has its A-ha moments as well as its trials. I am in my 40’s now and thought I had it all together in my 20’s. I suspect that I will look back when I am in my 50’s and chuckle at my 40-year old self, although I am no longer fooled that I have it all together. We are not supposed, for what fun would that be?Take some time to pepper in some fun and silliness while you embark on the serious business to discover your purpose. Your 20’s have a purpose and a lightness to them too!

    1. Hi Aaryne! Thank you for taking the time to comment. It sounds like every decade has challenged you but been a great adventure to get to where you are now. I appreciate you sharing as being twenty-three, it’s important to appreciate the now.

  56. I so remember my twenties being years of much angst as I was just beginning to dip my toe into the water of life. It does get better and as you walk the road to self-discovery you begin to understand that you will get through the rough patches and come out the other end perhaps a little wounded, but also having found more inner strength than you thought you had. This journey never ends until the day you take your last breath, but the wisdom acquired along the way makes it so worth the ride! Hang on, enjoy, never let fear hold you back and know, truly know, that you are never alone. Namaste.

    1. The road to self-discovery has been a bittersweet time right now! I’ve learned so much and to be honest, I’m excited to see what’s next. I appreciate you taking the time to read my work and sharing such a positive message. Thank you!

  57. I’m fortunate to have a medium to express myself in my 20’s. I completely relate to you. Thank goodness for blogs. I would have been frying in my own thoughts and discoveries. Your blog is beautiful!!

    1. I think that’s the main goal of being in our twenties. It’s not always writing (or even a form of art), but we need to find a way to put our thoughts into something non-toxic and find a way to organize the chaos. Thank you so much for taking the time to visit my blog. I hope I’ll hear from you on future posts :)

    1. I truly appreciate you taking the time to say that. I’m not one to put my emotions and thoughts out there but blogging has really helped so I love to hear that I can help others – at least in the smallest way. I hope to hear from you again!

  58. My brain sometimes works faster than my mouth and by the time i get the words to my lips people are on to something else. I hope you get to read some of my posts they are similar in that we speak of not having a voice and the frustrations of brain injuries/mental health and their invisibility

    1. I hope you’ve found writing as a way to ‘catch up’ and finally be able to say what you want. I used blogging to find my voice and as a result, I feel like I’ve gotten the chance to say everything I want. I will be sure to check out your blog! Thank you for sharing it with me and thank you for sharing it with your readers :)

  59. I like to be truthful too and like lists which I have many of. My encyclopedic evergreen truth blogs are rather dry with little emotional appeal but crammed with factual information. Search by keyword such as love, dating, marriage, parenting, empathy, etc. which you would not do with other limited blogs. With 1200 blogs so far on most important topics you can learn about life and more from the wisdom and life accumulated knowledge of a 68 year old. Best wishes. Uldis

    1. It sounds like you’ve got a great past of writing and expressing your thoughts to your audience. Thank you so much for taking the time to check out my blog and sharing that about yourself!

  60. just read your about section and am most definitely a follower :) i just started my blog a week ago, am loving it. i’m 26 next week and have been on a path of self discovery for the past few years – at your age, 23, i left home (south africa) to go on a pilgrimage by myself to peru because i had so many questions that needed answering. when i came home nearly two years later i returned a different person – the most important thing that i learned was to love one self completely. just as we are :) will be writing about the journey soon. anyways, thanks for the like. will be reading your posts! blessings x

    1. I’m so glad to have you as a subscriber – thank you! You sound like you were far more independent than I am and it sounds as though it’s given you an amazing perspective on life. I appreciate you sharing! I hope to hear more from you on future posts :)

      1. I wasn’t independent at all to be honest, but that’s exactly why I had to go! I was a co-dependent and shy – and going through a quarter life crisis of ‘what the hell am I meant to do with my life?’ haha – but to face one’s fear head on is the most amazing way to heal! So even though I cried my whole way to the airport cos I was so scared – it was life changing :) Anyways – we each have our own journeys to walk – as long as we are following our hearts we are on the right track! Happy you have found an outlet to share xx

    2. This is very inspiring too and great you’ve started a blog! Writing really does do wonders for confidence and self esteem.
      Do share your link once you are ready to!

      I write The Signorina (www.thesignorina.com)

      Nice to meet you!

  61. Most interesting. I wish you well in your journey. At 23 I was on active duty and an NCO (low level) which forced responsibility on me. For some people that is the path to adulthood and for others it burns them out and those need to find another path. I learned that great responsibility was not for me and the Air Force kept pushing me into it to my detriment. There are many paths out there, search and find the one that is yours.

    And lest you get the wrong idea, I loved my time in the Air Force, and I loved what I was doing. But I found that my abilities did not match the responsibilities being a higher-level NCO required.

    1. It sounds like you were living a very different, but such an incredible lifestyle at twenty-three. You sound like you were left with a strong attidude and a fearless perspective. That’s admirable. I think a great lesson to learn is that what’s right for someone, isn’t right for everyone else. Thank you so much for sharing your story. If you don’t mind me asking, if the Air Force wasn’t for you, have you since found what is?

      1. I wasn’t clear it seems. The Air Force was for me, I am a retired NCO (TSgt) of moderately high rank. What I said about great responsibility not being for me means that above a certain level I was out of my depth, the Peter Principle. What I was trying to say is that forcing someone to accept responsibility early on will work for some but not others. As of now I am completely retired and am a Postulant with the Community of Solitude.

  62. Kind of sounds like what I’m going through. 22 and I am thinking a lot about life, love, future, past, family, friends. It never ends :) Life is difficult , but life is beautiful ~

    1. It seems to be true, you have to see the dark to appreciate the light. I’m so glad you can relate. I agree life is beautiful and I’m so excited we’ve found that out at such an age that will allow us to appreciate the years to come. Thank you for sharing :)

  63. Thank you so much for supporting my blog throughout the past few months with the follow and a;; the likes! I finally made it over to your blog–not quite sure what took so long–and I really love it. I’m looking forward to hearing more!

    1. I absolutely love reading what else is out there in the WordPress realm.
      Such great writers on great topics, so thank you for sharing :)
      I’m glad you visited my blog and are happy with doing so.
      I hope I’ll hear from you on future posts :)

  64. Thank you for opening a door to you blog. My 20’s were years of chaos, joy, pain, suffering, laughter and so much more. Sadly I had no idea how to really appreciate it for what it was. Keep writing! Keep thinking and filling your “bottomless mind” (great descriptive phrase!). It is amazing how it helps the years before you and grants understanding for those you will leave behind.

  65. Good on you for taking pro-active steps to understand and thrive (not just survive) one of the most chaotic but influential times in your life. Every age has times when it truly sucks and other times when it absolutely shines. It’s even true for 43 year olds ;)

  66. I can fully relate with your ‘About’. It reminds me of that transitional period of my life. Now, I’m a mature lady in late twenties but how uncanny are the resemblances with your thoughts…my own feelings were exactly the same some years back. You’ve expressed it so very well …great :-)

  67. I’m very impressed with this mission of yours. There are plenty of times we are convinced we’re so alone, but there are others like you and I who want to change that feeling. We want to build a community that gives hope, security, and love to others who are struggling. I’ll be following you.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to read my mission :)
      I’ll admit I never realized there were people who were going through the same things and experiencing the same emotions until I started my blog. Comments like yours is support that I (and we) are not alone!

  68. Hey I love it,
    We are all going through it it never ends just the 20’s we think it has an end date at some point and when your older I guess you realize growing up is forever.
    But yeah right there with you through the brokeness, responsibility, ugly pains, all at 23!

  69. You have inspired me to share similar things on my blog. I’m older and can tell you that you are certainly on the right path. It took me much longer to ask the questions you’re asking. Life is about much more than what people make you believe. The struggle is what its about. You are not alone, you’re just ahead.

  70. The power is within, the journey is not always smooth or easily understood, but perseverance reveals the power of pressing forward, of exploring each moment as a powerful dna, a piece of a great puzzle, we should never accept the piece when we can have the entire puzzle. Keep up the good work and lead your thoughts so others can find the hope in their own soul as you find the strength in yours.

  71. Hello Young & Twenty. I understand and appreciate your struggles. Sometimes it doesn’t get easier as you get older. Sometimes you see the “light” and understand that suffering is an option and you, as the master of your emotions, can opt for joy. These briefs instant of enlightenment get longer as you focus on what you are manifesting instead of the “reality” that surrounds us. Always happy to share though it is wise to tell the story you are creating instead of the story you have lived. May your New Year be filled with friends, love, laughter and giggles.

  72. I can understand your struggles….but let me tell you….the struggles NEVER end. I am 68 and it seems things get harder as we get older. My mother never told me things would be hard….she always said to me “life was calm and quiet” for her. I always wondered what she meant because I have yet to experience “calm and quiet”

    I hope you find your mission in life…in the mean time just live each day to the fullest, letting God lead you every step you take….there will be the struggles…but at least you will know the direction to take.

    1. I’ve come to a full realization that no matter how much you learn or think you know, the struggles and lessons never stop! That’s become more of an exciting thought as opposed to scary. Thank you for taking the time to comment. It’s great to hear others perspectives :)

  73. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve forgotten that 20-somethings are adults, just as I was at that age. In your 20’s you learn many life lessons for the first time, but certainly not the last. Love, laughter, despair, tragedy, loneliness, hope – they are a part of life and come as a package deal. I admire your desire and ability to share yourself with others so openly and eloquently. Kudos to you!

  74. Just so you know… everything begins to finally make sense when you reach (or near) your 30s! Your twenties are a very confusing and conflicting time… but guess what… it does get better and easier! :)

  75. Hi youngandtwenty from youngandfortyplus :). You write well about the travails of a young twenty-something mind. I was there once. I continue to be troubled at forty-something :). C’est la vie! Continue to embrace your writing and am sure you will make something of your skills. Go for it!

    1. Hi youngandfortyplus, ;). Thank you so much for taking the time to read my ‘Mission’. I love seeing others perspectives whether it’s younger or older, it’s amazing to see how our stories are so alike. Thank you for sharing!

  76. I like your mission statement and totally identify with it. I feel that way about my family’s lack of understanding a lot and even with some friends, but I have found that there are a handful of people I really can depend upon, I only had to learn to recognize who they are and that they aren’t always family. <3 But I do still feel lost at times at 42 years.

    1. It’s great to hear you can relate regardless of age! I agree it can take awhile to find the people who you truly can depend on. I’ve found those people and I’m so glad to hear that you have too. I hope I’ll hear from you on future posts :)

  77. I feel like I just need to leave another comment on your blog! It’s gorgeous, keep going! It’s so lovely reading what’s going on in other people’s minds and realising that we’re not at all that different! :)

    1. I appreciate you leaving another message! This blog has given me so much reassurance that we truly aren’t alone so it’s great to hear that it can send others the same idea. Thank you :)

  78. I wish I had your blog in the beginning of my twenties but now at the tail end I’m starting to figure it out. This is why I started Peppermint-Sunshine, society is so caught up in social media or the love lives of vampires and werewolves that they forget that the normal struggle of living in your teens and growing in your twenties is difficult enough. And lets not add being in your twenties during a recession, that there is enough drama for a library full of books. Trust me, it gets better toward the end. I felt the same way when I was twenty-three: confused, horrified, and lost. It gets better. It gets funnier!

  79. I like the fact that you’re looking for honesty, it’s something I strive to write about and I hope future posts will bring you back. Interested to see what you have shared here; keep looking for the honest views of life. Cheers!

    1. Thank you! I’m so glad you took the time to read my blog and share a similar mission :) I hope I’ll hear from you on future posts. I look forward to reading more of your own work.

  80. Through just reading this you’ve inspired me with my own blog. I’ve always thought I was alone with these thoughts because life can be so consuming you forget there are others who may be experiencing the same inner turmoil. I’ll definitely be reading more of your blog! Your writing style is impressive, I hope I can bring the same relevance to anyone who comes across my blog x

    1. That makes me so happy to hear! Thank you for taking the time to say that :) I can’t wait to look through your blog.
      You’ll be amazed by how many people you’ll find, who will be able to relate.

  81. Keep writing ! I was 20 once and can relate 100% to what you write about. Then when I became 40 I thought that Life Begins At 40. But it doesn’t. It is there from before birth – and your life will continue on for as long as you leave a legacy that are enjoyed and useful to others. I wish I can be twenty-something again – but with the wisdom of current hindsight. I repeat: Keep writing.

  82. I was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder in my twenties. Since then, I’ve had many years of experience in coping with a less than perfect mind. My own kids are now moving into their twenties. In some ways, I’m sad for all they have had to go through, but I know they are far more understanding and compassionate when it comes to helping others overcome similar issues because of the crises they have walked through with me.

  83. Hi! You have a great About post. But sorry you have to go through these things – I’m a mom and a grandma now – and today’s twenty year olds are going through a totally different thing than I did at your age.
    Wishing you the best and I do know things will work out – kindred spirits in friends and family are important.
    cate b :)

  84. Very relatable article, I so completely agree with the chat room comment! I went through the same thing in my early twenties too! Very good writing, truly powerful!

  85. oHai!

    Your blog is really quite fantastic. I love your style, and the site itself is very clean and well put together. A+ !!

    Hope to see more from you!

  86. Hello. Thanks for dropping by. Love your mission statement btw. It’s exactly how I felt when I was in my 20s only blogging was not an option yet. Isn’t that why we blog – to share our innermost, deepest thoughts and feelings without condemnation?

    1. I’m so glad you took the time to check out my page. I think that is why we blog! I know it’s still hard for others to be completely open online, but it’s such a great community to be apart of.

  87. So glad you know your voice. Your writing is definitely inspirational stuff and I’m happy to see how many people agree, more than anything I know the catharsis that comes with getting the heavy out and you’ve found such a great outlet. Thanks for finding me, it’s a pleasure to find you in return :)

  88. I’m a 38 year old male, feelings and expressing them for a man is so difficult in todays society. I have a fantastic wife, a loving daughter and a few fantastic friends. I could count the number of close friends on half of 1 hand. Being male and trying to get people to understand the mental changes that we go through is very difficult. I’ve only just discovered that I’m normal and it’s classed as “being an introvert”. I thought I was on the verge of being depressed, or was suffering from male PMS (it does exist), but I now know it’s time for me to recharge. But all I can say, is that anyone who runs a home, runs their own business and absorbs everyone else’s personal issues has their own issues, and the best way to deal with them is to seek out those special people who are willing to listen, and then life gets better.

    1. That’s the greatest part about blogging. Getting to hear others stories, because that’s not a perspective I’ve ever seen society or mental health from. So, I appreciate you sharing. I’m an Introvert as well and naturally with being alone, we’re left with our thoughts. It all seems to work out and leaves us with a great perspective on life and ourselves. Great end message, ‘life gets better’. Thank you :)

  89. Sometimes our families don’t understand, our friends don’t have time and our voice shakes too much to turn thoughts into words. We try to make sense of the world while we try to make sense of ourselves and that’s an impossible thing to do alone.

    amen amen amen..Just got off the phone with a ‘warrior sister’, someone that joined me on this journey of life a few years back through finding a blog of mine…As she told me today when she ‘introduced’ me to her sister..’your going to really like her, she’s just like us’. The knowledge of knowing we TRULY are not alone..sigh sigh sigh..what joy♥ You may be young and twenty but girl, your gloriously beautiful with the heart that you share with us all here.♥ blessings.♥

    1. So glad you can relate! It sounds like you have a very encouraging sister beside you on your journey which is great to hear. Thank you for sharing :)

      1. I actually don’t have a physical, blood sister but I call it heart to heart,warrior sisters♥ I got me some fierce awesome powerful loving and amazing warrior sisters, linking arm in arm together♥I consider you a mighty warrior sister Giving others encouragement and inspiration to keep on going when they are ready to wave the white flag of defeat.

  90. I just finished reading two books by Brene Brown (see also TED talks). She researches the effects of media and cultural pressures on our sense of normalcy and self, how to develop internal resilience, and how to be our authentic selves. I’m 50, but I’m still 20, and 30, and 40, and 10. Thanks, and best wishes.

    1. Thank you so much, Sofia! I will of course take a look and mention it on my ‘Awards’ page. It’s always great to be nominated but hearing that my blog can inspire you is even better. It seems you do the same for others so, congratulations:)

  91. Importantly, it is not that your parents or older acquaintances don’t understand, they don’t remember that they do understand. I am on the other end of the age spectrum, and have been spending time trying to recall the trials and uncertainties–and there were many. If you are interested in a senior’s perspective on growing up, maturing, I invite you to look at some of my earlier blogs. Most of all, push on!

    1. I understand that they do understand, as I’m others do to, I think it’s just harder to convince ourselves to truly believe it. Maybe we prefer not too. I will be sure to look at some of your earlier blogs. I hope you’ll continue to share your perspective here :)

    1. That’s such a simple solution to ‘turn it off’ First of all, that can trigger a lot of feelings of loneliness and being left out. Second of all, we live in a society where like it or not, social media has dominated our way of living and thinking. It’s within our food, our clothes, every shopping experience, every news report, every emotional experience. One can not just ‘turn social media off’. One cannot live with the mentality, “as long as I don’t see it, it’s not there”. We will always be forced to compare our lives to better.

  92. I can’t wait to read more! I saw you liked one of my recent posts so I checked out your blog. I love it! :)

  93. You wrote that so beautifully. I am glad you liked my post so I could follow you back to yours!!!! I just finished blooging101 and everything I was taught makes so much sense now that I am getting out there.

    1. I appreciate you taking the time to read it! Thank you :) I’m excited to see what you do with Blogging 101 behind you. Stay posted, I hope to post a Blogging 101 post myself :)

  94. Hello I really appreciate you sharing your life experiences . I love learning about people s interventions , I like the way you express yourself. I will keep in touch and hopefully in the near future look forward to help you with your funds. Pleasure meeting you thank you.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to say that. I truly appreciate it. I hope to hear from you in the future as well. I’d especially love to hear your thoughts on further posts! :D

    1. I appreciate that, ‘snarling fox’! It’s amazing to see how many more people understand than don’t. It’s been pretty therapeutic for me so I’m so glad to hear my honest is apparent to everyone reading :) Glad to hear you never followed the crowed. Keep doing you!

  95. Glad you are doing this in your 20’s. I am a late bloomer doing it in my 50’s. I feel so alive and free now. I feel power in my own essence. IT is great to be alive and I did not feel that way for many years of my life.

    1. Thank you! I I feel so fortunate to have found such a sense of self in my 20’s but I’m aware that I still have a lot more to discover. I’m so glad to hear you sound your sense of power. I appreciate you taking the time to comment :)

  96. Thank you, “youngandtwenty” for your kinds words for my new posting. If anyone is interested, U can find me at https://adman4u.wordpress.com. I, others, love your style. Certainly appreciate your “journey of struggles.” I hope they become less difficult as you move into your 30s. As you progress, you might find a new “self” in your 50s (as one commentor stated). Trust me, it can still happen in one’s 70’s. I think I will hang with you to watch your growth. Hope you don’t mind?

    1. I appreciate you taking the time to checking out my blog and commenting! I look forward to following your own journey. The more I’ve found self-confidence and realization, the less difficult things have become so I look forward to the years leading up to my 30’s.. Thank you so much for sharing your own journey. I’ll remember to embrace the change and remember that no matter my age, I still have the ability to. I certainly hope you’ll stick around! I look forward to hearing from you again :)

  97. No matter what age you’re at, these beautiful thoughts of yours will continue to rise and this is what makes life a gift. I wrote the following when I was your age, and five decades later, I am still voicing this:

    “Other people,”
    “Other men,”
    “They” and “someone”
    And “everyone else.”
    How very simple
    To become “them.’
    But my voice
    Will not allow
    Such migration
    Of my soul.

    Be true to yourself and you just go clinging to that self.

    1. That’s such a great perspective, Vanessa! Of course it’s hard to tell others to survive their feelings alone, for I’ll admit I once wasn’t strong enough to do that and I’m so fortunate for the people around me who helped. Thank you for taking the time to comment :)

  98. I’m a 52 year old man and I can relate to some of what you are saying about reassurances that I not alone in my struggles in life. So my young friend, I assure you that you are not alone.

  99. Thanks for reading regardless of the ‘twenties’ theme, Kevin! It’s been great to hear how many people before and beyond this age can relate. Hope to hear your perspective on future posts :)

  100. Jennifer: such an incredibly heartfelt mission you have written which literally reached into my heart and soul. I too, was diagnosed when I was only 20 and truly relate to what you wrote. Keep your chin up, wake up every morning with a smile that today will be a better day than yesterday.

    1. Unfortunately you’re Anonymous but, thank you so much. That means a lot! It’s been amazing to find so many people who can relate and my entire Young & Twenty journey have helped me (so far) through the struggle of the 20’s. Thank you again for taking the time to read and comment. I hope I’ll hear from you again :)

  101. Hi, Jennifer! That’s an amazing blog you have there, and what I like about it is how it motivates others, including me. I really enjoy reading your blog. Stay blessed!!!

    1. Hello! Thank you so much for the kind comment. I take it as such a compliment that I can inspire you and I truly hope it’s the same for others. I hope I’ll hear from you again. :)

    1. I appreciate you taking the time to check out my blog and not judge it based on it’s target to the ‘twenties’. I hope I’ll hear from you again and I do plan to continue writing. Thank you so much! :)

  102. It’s amazing that you’re on your journey of self-discovery in your twenties. Many people don’t embark on this until much later. Wishing you success on your journey!

    1. I’ve heard that! I’m thankful I’ve stumbled upon self-discovery at this age but it also makes it hard for myself to relate with others and reverse. I appreciate the comment. Thank you :)

  103. You are not alone billions are trailing behind you being in the same boat. Positiveness wins over negativeness. Always be positive.Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  104. My experience and worldview are so different from what you have and so many others as evidenced by comments to your blog. So many of your generation seem at loose ends and lacking fulfillment. I have a beautiful, smart 21 year granddaughter who would probably identify with you. She lives 1500 miles from me in Florida. She is plugging away at college and I believe she will finish. We FB occasionally to say I love You, but we share almost nothing. For the first decade of her life, she was my heart beat. Can you tell me what she is thinking? And tell me how to tell her what I am thinking?

  105. Thank you for taking the time to read my own journey and for commenting. First of all, ‘lacking fulfillment’ is an incredibly true statement and what I’m still going through myself. Unfortunately we’re searching for a way to survive before searching for ourselves. It seems like in these years, it’s so important to have people who understand when we need them close, and when we need them to back up a little.

  106. Your blog is elegant and thought provoking. It has taken me many more decades to find my writing groove and get perspective in my life. I admire your bravery in revealing yourself to the world. I moved to a third world country in a war zone in my 40s and felt so liberated despite how hard life was. I moved to the US from there and all the same worries about appearance and societal norms came back. With support from professionals and loved ones, I found my way back to being comfortable with who I am. Life is fun in my 50s and ironically I look better than I ever did. Compassion and laughter makes everyone attractive.

    1. Thank you so much, Kerry! It’s been amazing to hear that my thoughts and words can connect with those beyond their twenties. It’s great to hear you’ve found comfort with yourself – thank you so much for sharing your story and leaving such a positive message! :)

  107. You voiced what so many young persons needed someone to put into words for them. That takes the same courage that will find your role, the one that brings joy to you and others.
    This from a fellow in his nineties.
    Continue being brave.

    1. I needed to hear it myself. It’s been unexpected to see how many people need to as well. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and leave such a kind comment. All the best! :)

  108. When “quarter-life crisis” becomes “forever crisis”, we need all the support we can get. I feel you. Good thing you’re able to express your feelings in words because it’s something I struggle on. Great to know there’s a blogger like you out there. =)

    1. Thank you, Javin! I truly appreciate that. Things are a lot easier knowing that you’re not going through them alone so I’m glad I enjoy writing so much that I can use it as my vice. I hope to hear from you on future posts. Keep working on expressing your own message! :)

  109. We’ll see… Still trying to learn how to “make” a blog… Haha! Oh, and you’re from Ontario? I’ve been there once… Almost froze. =P

    1. It’s a learning process but I’m sure you’ll get there! And I am from Ontario. I wouldn’t come back for awhile, we’re having a very chilly spring. Where are you from?

  110. Yeah, I hope so! Lots of adventures but can’t seem to put it in words. Don’t get me wrong, I love cold weather but when it’s below zero, there’s just no way to enjoy it. I really wonder how you survive? Haha. I’m from San Francisco. Have you been here before?

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