5 • Honest Truths About Mental Health

5 • Honest Truths About Mental Health

“The good days are good, the bad days are bad, and the ‘normal’ days are few and far between.”

Mental health isn’t a trend. It isn’t a group on Facebook or a card to play for pity. Mental health is a backpack you can’t take off. Carrying the weight of your past and the burden of your thoughts. It’s a loss of control. The truth behind your mask.

Don’t say you’re sorry; say you understand. Don’t say statistics; say you cry too. Don’t say this world’s hard; say it’s possible to survive.

What are your thoughts on the stigma
against mental health?
Let me know in the comments!

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1. Depression

Depression isn’t suicidal. It doesn’t paint purple bags beneath your eyes or leave your wrists scared with self-loath. There’s no rain cloud over your head or an all black dress code. You don’t spend your days choking on tears with makeup stained cheeks. Depression isn’t robotic. 

You can still express a genuine smile; you just may cherish it more.

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2. Bi Polar

Bi Polar isn’t crazy.

It isn’t a mental slide –  ascending from bliss to insanity. It isn’t an anticipated breakdown from a cartoon fire burning in your eyes, or bellows of smoke rising from your head. Your conversations don’t play out like Mab Libs and your thoughts don’t stray from common sense.

Bi Polar isn’t the fiddling of a light switch after a sudden outage. 

It doesn’t symbolize weakness and it doesn’t symbolize loss of control. Bi Polar is a mental spectrum. A hypothetical thermometer. An unexplainable curse.

The good days are good, the bad days are bad, and the ‘normal’ days are few and far between.

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3. Insomnia

Insomnia isn’t a late night movie marathon. It isn’t a missed curfew or a restless sleep, welcoming Monday morning.  It’s a racing mind. A stream of thoughts. A distorted reality. Insomnia is a battle between your mind. 

A battle to close your eyes, rest your thoughts, and end the day with calm behind you.

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4. Anorexia

Anorexia is not a missed meal, a number on the scale, or a mentality you obey. It isn’t a distorted mirror. It’s a distorted perspective. A lying societyAnorexia is never good. Never pretty. Never the best. It’s words that work against you. Opinions that make you weak. 

It’s the rush to come to peace with your flaws before they take a piece of you.

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5. O.C.D

OCD is the fear of wrong. 

Wrong placement. Wrong timing. Wrong outcome. It’s a tidy chaos. A disguised flaw. It’s the compulsion that things could be cleaner, better, different. Rarely do people look beyond itRarely do they see cleanliness compensate for an internal disaster.

True OCD is using physical items, the things you have the most control over, as an anchor for when things in your mind and things in your life –  go so awry.

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  • Great post.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you 🙂

  • Reblogged this on A Ruined Life and commented:
    Very educational

  • LC

    This is amazing. Made me tear up. So well written and explained. Reblogging this tomorrow. ❤️

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you for taking the time to read it!

  • Reblogged this on dontspeakjustblog and commented:
    a look inside the mind of someone struggling with mental illnesses.

  • katieflynn

    This is great! I wish more people could start to think this way about mental health

    • youngandtwenty

      I think blogging’s the best opportunity to really share an honest opinion!

      • katieflynn

        I completely agree

  • Wow. So raw. Love it.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you!

  • GREAT post!

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much 🙂

  • happilydpressed

    I love this.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you!

  • I like this a lot. I personally suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder (during my last doctor visit, he informed me that I literally check all the boxes, which was unsettling, if I’m being honest) and the lack of understanding about mental health has had a huge negative impact on my life. I support anyone trying to spread the word about it.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you! I developed GAD as a result of insomnia. Regardless of the impact it has on your life, you’ll come out on top. I appreciate the comment, blogging seems like the best way to get a message across sometimes.

  • I can only echo these sentiments. The entire language used around MH needs to change – these are serious illnesses not simply moods.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you! I agree completely, they’ve even been perceived as ‘trends’ which is the worst of all. Thank you for sharing your link, I’ll be sure to check it out 🙂

  • This is my first little foray into opening up about my experiences: http://sophieosborne1.wordpress.com/2014/05/13/not-today-for-many-days/

  • Thank you for sharing. I could relate to several of your descriptions and thoughts. I’ll be sharing this!

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and share! It’s amazing to know the message is getting spread across to a wider audience.

  • the line about the genuine smile…that hit me hard.. thank you for writing this.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment. I hope finding something you can relate to will help you along your journey 🙂

  • This is very well written and touches my heart. Thank you.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read it. I’m glad it could mean something to you 🙂

  • Amazingly well written, thank you for sharing

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you! I’m so happy I eventually decided to share this post.

  • You hit the nail on the head! I can relate complete to your comments on depression and OCD

    • youngandtwenty

      That’s great that you can relate (not that you’re suffering) OCD seems to be the hardest to explain to others so it’s great to hear I’m not alone.

      • I really loved this as well — the OCD section particularly, as I battle that too. I will say though, that OCD isn’t only about physical items. I have OCD with thoughts, compulsive disordered thinking, and that manifests very differently — I am not a tidy person to say the least! But I am definitely obsessed with wrong doing, wrong timing, wrong outcome.

        Beautiful writing — just wanted share my two cents. xo

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    Depression … OCD … Insomnia … Hit the nail on the head!

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    I like this post.

  • Amazing well written – so simply put, put with passion and power too

    • youngandtwenty

      This is an older post so I especially appreciate you taking the time to read it. It was one of my most honest posts I feel so thank you for understanding the emotion.

  • Reblogged this on Nocturnal Admissions and commented:
    This child has been peeking through my window.
    Nailed #1 and #3 to perfection.

    #5?
    Not at all. My life and mind and environment is constantly in a shambles, BUT…
    I have 175 DVDs on my shelves in alphabetical order, and if I ever get around to it I’m going to re-do it all over by director.
    In alphabetical order, of course.

  • Wonderful post! I really love the way you mentioned that people can use different comments to be more sensitive and not offensive with someone who has mental health issues. I especially loved the last one, Don’t say this world is hard; say it’s possible to survive. perfect.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much! I’ve been the happiest with the comments I’ve received on this post. It’s amazing how many people can relate. I’m so glad you picked up on possibly the most important part (to me).

      • You’re very welcome! It’s all about perspective and the way we look at life. <3 Thanks for writing a wonderful post!

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    This post is raw, beautiful and educational.

  • hannahholivia

    Reblogged this on intwominds and commented:
    This is both amazing and horrifying – very pertinent truths for Mental Health Awareness Week.

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  • It’s so true about those with depression cherishing the real smiles.

    • youngandtwenty

      Absolutely! It’s a bittersweet thing.

  • Dark Mick

    Great insight.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you 🙂

  • faridust

    This is amazing and beautiful.

  • Thank you for writing something like this 🙂
    I really enjoyed this line under depression “You can still express a genuine smile; you just may cherish it more.”
    Would you mind if I let it inspire a poem?

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you for taking the time to read it and absolutely! I find it such an important topic, it’s great if we can inspire on another. Please share the final poem with me if you’d like! I’d love to read it.

      • I look forward to working on it! Thank you.

  • Beautiful honest writing

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you!

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  • I think you write with insightful fire and descriptive wit. Thanks for cutting through the crap and leading some discourse on the endless slog of imperfection

    • youngandtwenty

      I’ve always thought my short writings were working against me, but it’s great to hear otherwise. Thank you for reading and sharing that 🙂

  • This post and all the others I’ve read have been fascinating and helpful. I’m glad I found it in Freshly Pressed and will Follow from now on. I relate to many of the issues you so constructively and creatively write about. It took me writing a memoir to finally discuss my own battles – and solutions – to depression. Part of the healing solution for me was use of humor, another reason I relate to your posts, and so you’ll see humor used in many posts on my website mikeandberg.com. Check it out and read some as well as information about the memoir, Maybe Boomer.
    I look forward to reading more of your views on attaining stronger mental health!

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you! I’m so glad you came across it 🙂 That’s exciting that you got to use a memoir to convey the emotions and obstacles you’ve once faced. I’ll be sure to look into it. I appreciate you sharing 🙂

  • Reblogged this on One Step at a Time and commented:
    This is so important.

  • anthoniojoshua

    Great post!
    Truthful and honest!
    Real cool, real cool!
    You know that the society out there, they only judge before they understand…
    I’m so glad that there’s people like you 🙂
    Who understands and willing to work it out together, without any lame advice about how we should live our life…

    God bless you and your writings!

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you! Society’s a hard thing to be up against but I already see the stigma in mental health starting to be lifted so hopefully we’ll keep fighting this battle. Thank you for the encouraging comment 🙂

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  • This is simply great. Great topic!!

    • youngandtwenty

      Always a great topic to be discussed. Thank you!

  • Beautiful! Thank you for liking my post “Discovering Hidden Talents at A School Festival.” Your writing is intriguing, honest, and compelling. I look forward to reading more of your stuff.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much! I look forward to reading more of your work 🙂

  • marquieshajanae

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    I was drawn to this post. An awesome read. I am four out of the five.

  • You’ve explained these perfectly. I’m glad there are people like you out there who understand the truth about mental health.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you! I hope my different ‘spin’ on the topic can help educate others as well.

  • oldsilverphotography

    I appreciate your gift of crafting words, you offer a precise, pragmatic, and realistic portrayal of mental illness.

    • youngandtwenty

      That means a lot. I’m glad I could offer a unique piece about an important topic. Thank you 🙂

  • A wonderful & empowering post giving rays of hope where needed. Thank you for sharing your compassion 🙂 I’m glad you enjoyed my post.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you for taking the time to not only read my post, but comment. Keep writing, yourself!

  • Very good piece. As I’m someone who is S.A.D. and tis the season when I have to explain on occasion what is going on.

    Having stood on a few rocks in the west end myself and being able to see the tip of the spot I stood on for 5 years I’m also curious as to what rock you’re standing on.

  • weirdaweso3e

    All so true.

    • youngandtwenty

      I’m glad you can agree!

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  • floridaborne

    Another factor I didn’t know until later in life is that thyroid disorders (like Hashimotos) can mimic depression or bi-polar disorder. People are mis-diagnosed.

    You’ve done a great job of putting the truth into a nutshell.

    • youngandtwenty

      There seems to be a lot about mental health that we still have left to learn. Thank you for taking the time to not only read, but share your thoughts 🙂

  • Lovely. <3

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you!

  • Reblogged this on Diary of a Depressed Bear and commented:
    The truth is out there!

  • What a powerful piece! Thank you.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you for taking the time to read it!

  • Reblogged this on The Road To Peace and commented:
    Oftentimes our mental health affects all of our other relationships. For this reason I am reblogging this post from Young & Twenty. There’s some good information here, formatted for easy reading.

  • jimlifechoice

    An interesting read and a fair analysis of mental health disorders or so called. I like the layout and the topic lines. Thanks for risking putting yourself out there–I’ll continue to look in–James

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you! It’s a post I’m definitely most proud of, especially after seeing how many people can really relate. I hope to hear from you again 🙂

    • Thank you so much for the kind comments, James! I certainly hope I’ll hear from you on future posts 🙂

  • Reblogged this on Gypsy Rue and commented:
    Thank you for this wonderfully worded description of the suffering many people live with, including myself, when we have depression, anxiety, panic attacks or any number of other mental or physical disorders. We have ailments, panic, terror, obsessions, nightmares if we can even sleep and the overwhelming exhaustion that generally comes hand in hand with depression, at least in my experience. I have been listed by physicians and therapists as having long-term depression, an anxiety disorder and panic attacks for more years than not. Thankfully I am no longer severely mentally ill, but it took falling to the bottom, experiencing life in terror due to sexual assault before I realized that if I survived that I could survive anything. Thank you for this post on such a misunderstood topic.

  • Mustafa Samiullah

    I completely agree with number one. I know that there is a difference between depression and sadness. I have been depressed for at least 10 years. I also know that this year was a year I would have something to “be depressed about.” like my mom dying so I know that the years before this devastating loss was more than me being “woe is me” because I can’t get a date.

    I also agree with the last sentence. I just appreciate when I do have a reason to smile more than most people because it is so tough to find reasons.

    • youngandtwenty

      It’s so hard to explain to people who don’t understand that depression is not ‘sadness’. I’m so sorry that you suffered but I am so glad to hear that you can still find a reason to smile. I appreciate you sharing that, thank you!

  • I really like this post. I have come back to read it several times. It is validating. I am proud of you for speaking the truth as it is. Thank you for this post.
    Namaste,
    Annie

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much! It’s such a compliment to hear that you even come back to this post. I’ll hope to hear from you again 🙂

  • Wow. VERY powerful. Thank you for writing and sharing this.

    • youngandtwenty

      Thank you so much for reading! 🙂

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  • Reblogged this on My Singularity and commented:
    This writer perfectly captures the description of common mental illnesses. Depression is….

  • hi..
    you are young and in twenties..i am not so young and in my thirties..and being a doc, seen a few cases of all these mental disorders..

    believe me, you have beautifully described these disorders to some extent, but still, DEPRESSION IS SUICIDAL, BI_POLAR is CRAZY, INSOMNIA is a late night MARATHON and ANOREXIA is a missed meal..

    what i want to emphasise is just that, we should recognise a mental disorder as soon as possible and instead of glorifying this, one should get the treatment ASAP.

    Nice read this young and twenty!!…

    • youngandtwenty

      Hi! Thank you so much for sharing that. As much as these titles ARE those things, I hope I was able to shine a light on the idea that there’s a lot more to these struggles that those who haven’t experienced them, won’t understand. Thank you so much for sharing and taking the time to read my post though. I’m so glad you hear you enjoyed it 🙂

  • shmooz

    Love how you’ve listed the 5 truths about mental health. Take care,
    Lauren

    • Y O U N G & T W E N T Y

      Thank you! Take care as well, Lauren.

  • Addiction:
    Addiction is not fun. It is not a party. It is not a choice. It is a disease, a mental illness. It kills people. Probably people that you know. Yet more people than you can imagine…
    700 MILLION people suffer from the disease of addiction.
    Of that 700,000,000 only 7million survive, WORLDWIDE.
    That’s 693,000,000 that will die from addiction.
    That is more than twice the population of the USA.

    Stigma is killing these people.

    They are sick and they need help.
    They do not choose this life.
    They do not choose that death.
    They can, however, choose to get help.
    But we have to know the truth about the situation to make sure this is possible.

    I am one of the ones that is alive. Every day is a fight that words cannot explain.
    I can not do it alone. I am blessed enough to have found help after 13 years of hell.
    It isn’t easy but it is worth it. One day at a time.

    Thank you.

  • Yeah….my husband is bi-polar, it is not an easy illness to have nor is it easy on the friend or spouse who is NOT bi-polar. There were no signs leading up to the breakdown, only that he was under much stress and one day he is crawling around on all fours telling me to get on the floor because someone is watching. It was a shock to me….my only instinct was calling 911, a very scary night. He is on meds now, but every now and then the sickness creeps in if he doesn’t sleep well. Mental illness, runs in the family, sorry to say, and a grandfather committed suicide. So yes, there were signs that I did not heed. If I had, I never would have decided to follow him. I was young and nieve, he 24 and me 25 so we were so in love. The first breakdown did not happen till 10 years later. But some day…all will be healed, I look forward to that day.

  • Amazing work, here! That’s a great way to express these mental health concepts, especially since these are often misconstrued by a society afraid to discuss them. I am an advocate of mental health, and I admire you for writing this down so beautifully. 🙂

  • Well said. Thanks. x

  • Such an important message, thank you for putting it out there.

    Beka. xo
    littleworldofbeka

  • Great post. I’ve had depression, anxiety and insomnia for years. It takes such a toll some days. Anxiety can hit me like a ton of bricks. I envy those who have never experienced any mental issues. Being depressed, anxious, exhausted and then not being able to sleep because your mind just won’t stop is torture. Some days are better than others. I try my best to focus on the positives. Talking about it and reading about others who go through the same struggles and understand helps! 🙂

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  • Depression … my personal battle. Yet, it takes so much courage to even admit I have it. Yesterday, I started a new post series on depression. Glad to read this post.

    • The mere courage to admit it is more than enough! (In my opinion, at least). Thank you so much for commenting, Sonia. I’ll be sure to take a look at your series. Good for you. Keep it up 🙂

  • Mental illness sucks!

    • It can certianly suck (at times) but I think I’m starting to learn that they’re actually a gift. It’s amazing the way your mental illnesses can turn you into a strong person; and quite possibly be what we need in our lives to push us.

      Of course, that being said, there are many, many, many downfalls, as well.

      Thanks for sharing, Meghan!

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