Love & Lust • Our Conversations Are Full Of Empty Words


“I’ll backspace the lines I write about the things that keep me up at night.”

You’ll send me a straight forward text, “what’s up?”

My thumb will hover over the letters on my phone, aching to tell you about my insecurities, my fears, and my over-ambitious goals. I’ll erase the lines I write about the things that keep me up, the way I see the Universe, and the way my over-thinking [and my over-reacting] haunts me most in the dark.

I’ll plan my response should you ask about the first boy I kissed, why I wear socks in the summer, sit with my leg on the chair, or signal into parking spots. I wish I could tell you about the music I play on repeat. The poetry I recite in my mind, and the things that make me cry – every time I watch the news. 

I’ll think of what I’d say, should you ask me why I am the way I am.

Instead, our conversations are full of empty words.

They’ll keep up from growing and they’ll keep us from caring; but no differently will my stomach toss and turn as I take a deep breath and respond, “not much, you?”

This image was illustrated in collaboration with Lemon Chicken Por Favor

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  • linuxode

    So true. Words said are impossible to take back, but these days “saying” has acquired a different taste – our fingers talk. And its become so easy to take them back. But, well, isn’t that what personal blogs are for? 😀

    • What a great [and so true] perspective! I’m so interested in the way that’s the moral you took from my post, so thank you so much for sharing. “Saying” has indeed acquired a different taste and unfortunately that’s usually what happens – our words get lost or disproved by our actions. You’re right. Where would we be without ‘personal blogs’ letting us talk, and talk, and talk!

  • This blog makes a very good point; one I’ve long since come to recognize–as a human race we are starving for connection. There is a glut of empty words, void of meaning and substance, tossed back and forth via the many social media options all the while individual human beings are starving to death for lack of meaningful connection. I know, because I feel it too.

    • “We are starving for connection” I absolutely love that as it is so [unfortunately] true! Especially with social media, we look for connections in such insignificant ways. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post, truly understand it, and leave such an encouraging comments. I hope I’ll hear from you again! 🙂

  • This is so deep and accurate. There is so much mindless chitchat but no meaningful conversations happening. And a lot of the time I find myself immersed in this mindlessness, like I’m in some sort of a trap I’ve allowed myself to be in.

    • Thank you so much! I think when you said “There is so much mindless chitchat but no meaningful conversations happening.” you described my entire post in a single line. So very true. It’s amazing to be able to (so I hope you do) surround yourself with people who listen, and care, and can talk to you about more than the weather. It’s so important. Especially as we’re being introduced to so much madness in the world through our twenties. It’s important to have an outlet for that.

  • You said it so well. It’s true that these days with Social Media and technology, conversing with others becomes more surface leveled. The common conversation of “How are you” only to be replied with “Good”, when there is so much within us to share.

    • That means a lot. Thank you so much, Katie! ‘Surface level’ is an absolutely perfect way to summarize the small talk which so many people seem happy with.It seems to result with us all having bottled up emotions and the feeling that no one’s there. Conversations need to start exceeding, “yes, no, and good!”

      • Yes, I believe we all have so much within us more than people know because of limiting what we say. I suppose that’s the wonderful thing about blogging – we can share our thoughts together! X

        • Absolutely! Blogging is such an amazing outlet and place to put your voice. I truly wish more people would pick it up!

  • Woah love this.

  • someone said that people we care about are gifts. Its our job to unwrap the package….

    • What an interesting quote / perspective! So very true. Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • OMG yes

  • timelesswheel

    Very accurate! That’s why I prefer a conversation in person anytime! 🙂
    P.S. Can’t locate the comment option when reading on the phone

    • So glad you agree 🙂 In – person is always the way to go (as long as the person isn’t on their phone!) And thank you so much for letting me know. That’s strange. I’ll be sure to take a look!

  • I think I’ve said this before… but it makes me sad the way that my attempts at non-empty conversation actually scare people off and push people away these days.

    • I agree, Dennis. I surely do. A part of me things the world is coming around, and actually wants to talk about more than The Kardashians – but that may just be my opinion through the amazing, like-minded comments I read on my blog 🙂

  • I absolutely love this.
    It’s hard having deep conversations these days and I feel one of the reasons is people who protective of their insecurities. We always want to protect ourselves hence we would rather not share things.
    A friend once shared this quote with me, ” sometimes people ask how you are doing jot because they care but because they want to be sure they are doing better than you, ” that right there is why there are so many shallow conversations.

    • Thank you so much! “We always want to protect ourselves hence we would rather not share things.” – How true this is! I also feel like people have become SO protective that we’re all just rather judgemental and self-adsorbed. Crazy times, but it’s such a wonderful feeling to find someone you can have more than just those conversations with.

      And I’ve heard that EXACT same [perfect] quote.
      Thank you for sharing 🙂

  • The Anxious Mind

    I find this post describes a lot of my conversations lately with people as I try so hard to hide my anxiousness. It also reminds me how difficult it is for me to open up with certain people when I wish i could tell them everything.