Love & Lust • The Stigma Of Being Single

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“You continue to live as a wallflower with your emotions beside you and fear on your back.”

It’s cruel to define life as an ongoing struggle of finding someone who loves you – for you. It’s even harder when you’re ‘different’. When your weaknesses are harder to turn a blind eye to. When you don’t even love yourself. It’s the stigma of being single.

You live as a wallflower with your emotions beside you and fear on your back. You risk missing a good thing for a sure thing until one day you’re sure of yourself.

People can’t understand how you can be alone. How you can live day after day without a good morning kiss; or year after year without a Valentine date.

People can’t help but wonder – how are you okay to be alone?

When in fact, the loneliest lonely can be found in someone’s arms.


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Mental Health • The Idea Of Someone Has To Be Enough

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“No one’s life stops when yours does.”

You don’t want to breakdown because you don’t want to challenge the love of the people around you. You don’t want to see who would be there. You just want to believe they would all be. Unfortunately, you know the truth.

You know no one’s life stops when yours does.

But still, you want them to push you. Comfort you. Convince you there’s good you simply can’t see. Maybe they can’t keep telling you things will be okay. Maybe they can’t visit every lunchtime, or call before bed, just to soothe your mental pain.

Maybe they can’t give you expectations that they’ll always be there because sometimes they won’t be. One day they won’t be.

Sometimes your call will go unanswered and your mind will be left to wander.

You’ll wonder who cares and you’ll question the motive of those who do. Peace of mind will come as the ones you need are always there.

You are loved and love is something that sticks around, even when they’re gone.


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5 • Honest Truths About Mental Health

5 • Honest Truths About Mental Health

“The good days are good, the bad days are bad, and the ‘normal’ days are few and far between.”

Mental health isn’t a trend. It isn’t a group on Facebook or a card to play for pity. Mental health is a backpack you can’t take off. Carrying the weight of your past and the burden of your thoughts. It’s a loss of control. The truth behind your mask.

Don’t say you’re sorry; say you understand. Don’t say statistics; say you cry too. Don’t say this world’s hard; say it’s possible to survive.

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1. Depression

Depression isn’t suicidal. It doesn’t paint purple bags beneath your eyes or leave your wrists scared with self-loath. There’s no rain cloud over your head or an all black dress code. You don’t spend your days choking on tears with makeup stained cheeks. Depression isn’t robotic. 

You can still express a genuine smile; you just may cherish it more.

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2. Bi Polar

Bi Polar isn’t crazy.

It isn’t a mental slide –  ascending from bliss to insanity. It isn’t an anticipated breakdown from a cartoon fire burning in your eyes, or bellows of smoke rising from your head. Your conversations don’t play out like Mab Libs and your thoughts don’t stray from common sense.

Bi Polar isn’t the fiddling of a light switch after a sudden outage. 

It doesn’t symbolize weakness and it doesn’t symbolize loss of control. Bi Polar is a mental spectrum. A hypothetical thermometer. An unexplainable curse.

The good days are good, the bad days are bad, and the ‘normal’ days are few and far between.

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3. Insomnia

Insomnia isn’t a late night movie marathon. It isn’t a missed curfew or a restless sleep, welcoming Monday morning.  It’s a racing mind. A stream of thoughts. A distorted reality. Insomnia is a battle between your mind. 

A battle to close your eyes, rest your thoughts, and end the day with calm behind you.

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4. Anorexia

Anorexia is not a missed meal, a number on the scale, or a mentality you obey. It isn’t a distorted mirror. It’s a distorted perspective. A lying societyAnorexia is never good. Never pretty. Never the best. It’s words that work against you. Opinions that make you weak. 

It’s the rush to come to peace with your flaws before they take a piece of you.

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5. O.C.D

OCD is the fear of wrong. 

Wrong placement. Wrong timing. Wrong outcome. It’s a tidy chaos. A disguised flaw. It’s the compulsion that things could be cleaner, better, different. Rarely do people look beyond itRarely do they see cleanliness compensate for an internal disaster.

True OCD is using physical items, the things you have the most control over, as an anchor for when things in your mind and things in your life –  go so awry.

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Love & Lust • We Wait For The Letters

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“The definition of love has misleads us to think, if it’s not dancing in the rain, it’s not love at all.”

You’ll analyze every word they say and the speed in which they text.

You’ll stay up all night wondering where they are and you’ll go to sleep aching, the nights they’re not by your side. The nights you wish you were enough. The nights you’re full of rage and sorrow. The nights you’re punching pillows.

The nights lonely never felt so alone.

You’ll let your stomach knot, when you feel them drift away and you’ll let your idea of love, stand in your way of loving.

For the definition of love has mislead us to think, if it’s not dancing in the rain, it’s not love at all. So, we wait for the letters and the Cinderella proposals.

We wait, and we wait, and we wait.

We wait as we’re left to wonder if fairytales are fables.


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Understanding Life • The Power of Hindsight

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“You must never take for granted the power of a second – or the power of a second chance.”

Your life has played out the way it’s intended to.

The people, the places, and the choices. They were all meant to happen. Every mistake you made was a stepping stone. Every fork in the road was explored off a self-made decision. If you look at where you are – whether it’s good or bad – it’s where you’re supposed to be.

Your accomplishments – be they big or small – are you.

They are milestones in your life. A trophy of your concurs. Proof of your potential.

Although, if your life has gone wrong and disappointment is constant – realization is the bittersweet battle. You now have the power of hindsight. You now have the ability to use your past to revise your future. The ability to use the challenges defeated behind you, to battle the ones ahead.

Unfortunately, hindsight stirs anxiety.

You spend your days left to wonder where you went wrong. What you said in error. The ridiculous regrets that exhaust your mind. You overthink the things you wish could be forgotten about. You think everyone remembers your mistakes without realizing they’re trying to erase their own.

It’s an uneasy circle.

You must choose to take control of your thoughts or live victim to your past. You must never take for granted the power of a second – or the power of a second chance.


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