Love & Lust • The Kind of Love We Hate to Want


“There’s no better time to embrace who you really are then a time when no one has a clue.”

Our teen years fixated on the popularity of the girls with pretty long hair and a tendency to sneak alcohol during lunch. Their jock-like-boyfriends that would bend over backward for the ‘privilege’ to hold their books, and the way they could glamorize their gym uniforms by accessorizing with pink.

It was the kind of love we hated to want. It was enough to change us. It was enough to make us fake, vulnerable, jealous, and dangerously overcome with emotions.

Life is no different than High School.

If you step out of the ‘box’ you’re strange.  You’re different. You’re forced to accept that you’re not ‘normal’ but you’re still not sure that you know what ‘normal’ is.

You don’t. No one does.

No one knows why society made cruel standards to make or break a person. No one knows who dreamed up ‘right’ from ‘wrong’, but the second you believe what they’re talking about is the second you lose what you’re all about.

Eventually, you’ll find out that the girls with pretty long hair are no different than you. They’re people who miss their bed. They’re people who’re tired of hurting. They’re people who waste their days fighting who they are.

The 20’s come with a lot of hardships.

A lot of obstacles we must overcome – but while we’re occupied with the serious problems life offers, we forget to pretend to be someone else. After all, there’s no better time to embrace who you really are then a time when no one has a clue.

This image was illustrated in collaboration with Lemon Chicken Por Favor

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  • abfab89

    Very on topic today. Great post!! 🙂

  • devonmathis

    I think being in your 20’s, as we both are, comes with either a significant change in oneself or none at all. However, it has been my experience the alteration of oneself comes from an event so large you are forced to make a change.

    I think our “core” is there our whole lives, and never changes. It takes a bit of discovery, love, and pain to really show the world, and most importantly our self, who we really are.

    I’d like to say I thoroughly enjoy your writing, because it reminds me I am not alone in my questions of myself and the world around me. 🙂 I look forward to your next post!

  • Reminds me of one of my quotes… “Are you lost? Good. All the best ones are.” Love it!

  • “Normal” is truly as overrated as rumors would have you believe.
    Like… really overrated.
    Look around you. Then look around you again. Even closer. Then ask yourself if you truly want to be like most of Them.
    I hope not, but then again I live in California.

    And this:
    That right there is a piece of wisdom for the ages.
    For your age, my age, for the decades in between.
    DAMN!!!! That’s good.

  • You find out who you are in your twenties. You get comfortable with it in your thirties. You learn to love it in your forties. If you’re not moving and growing, you’re dying. Just try not to grow up too much. There’s a lot to be said for retaining that geeky, gawkiness as a girl, even when you left that child behind two or three decades ago.

    Oh and those girls “with long hair and drinking problems” it doesn’t always work out so well for them………

  • Now, I’m not a fan of “girly” blogs, not really interested, but the way you say things makes it interesting to read and I’m happy to see you have a quite good following. Keep it up!

    • I’m so glad you don’t see this as a ‘girly’ blog as that’s not at all the direction I intended. Thank you anyways for not judging a book by it’s cover 🙂

      • Always trying to spread fair criticism 🙂

  • Martha Kennedy

    I knew who I was in my 20s and before, but I ran away from it over, and over, and over, and over again. You’ve done a good job making sense of that (all too common) nonsense. Really lovely work!