Love & Lust • We Wait For The Letters

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“The definition of love has misleads us to think, if it’s not dancing in the rain, it’s not love at all.”

You’ll analyze every word they say and the speed in which they text.

You’ll stay up all night wondering where they are and you’ll go to sleep aching, the nights they’re not by your side. The nights you wish you were enough. The nights you’re full of rage and sorrow. The nights you’re punching pillows.

The nights lonely never felt so alone.

You’ll let your stomach knot, when you feel them drift away and you’ll let your idea of love, stand in your way of loving.

For the definition of love has mislead us to think, if it’s not dancing in the rain, it’s not love at all. So, we wait for the letters and the Cinderella proposals.

We wait, and we wait, and we wait.

We wait as we’re left to wonder if fairytales are fables.


This image was illustrated in collaboration with Lemon Chicken Por Favor

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  • I have often heard women and men comment that they knew they were “in love” because when they met their “soulmate” their heart sped up, their hands may have even become clammy, and their thoughts jumbled. Me? I wait for the one that will make feel at peace and ease when says “hi”. I look for the relations that is easy. Easy to be with my partner. Easy to think about and of her. Easy to be one while being two separate people. Easy to dream together. Easy to share the sorrows and the joys. Easy to go to sleep and wake up next to. Easy to love and be loved. Easy to be together and apart. Easy. A relationship that feels like home. That feels cozy and calm. That feels supportive and connected. That feels true and real. That feels delicious and sweet. That feels… easy!

  • asewalson

    Very wise advice in this post! It’s so very true!

  • Conversely (and I offer this for consideration only because it’s been my experience after four years with one of three “right ones” after the next followed by two of whoever said “Sure, okay,” followed by forty years with my wife):

    A) If you find yourself starting to “analyze every word they say” and / or “stay up late wondering where they are” then there is the distinct possibility you’re just not doing it right, or maybe you are and it’s just with the wrong person;
    B) If you are relying too much on everyone else’s concept or definition of love, you’re starting out with one foot already ankle-deep in the mud. You are the only one who truly knows what you want, what you lack and (hopefully) what you need;
    and C) “the right one will never make you wait”. When you’re hunger can only be satisfied by a perfectly marinated filet mignon, smothered in grilled onions, red and yellow peppers and shiitake mushrooms sauteed in a savory garlic / red wine sauce, you just ain’t gonna find it at the drive-thru window of a fast food joint.
    But that is the perfect place to go for a greasy burger.
    I don’t pretend to have all the answers, just the one that worked for me. Might work for others:
    you let these things happen in their own time, they’ll more likely to happen for the right reasons.
    When it does, you can find the “silence that feels right, and love that feels easy. … (the) nights alone, knowing they’ll be back and once they’re back, it’s knowing they’ll stay”.

    And yes. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes:
    don’t ever “let your idea of love stand in your way of loving.”
    During that experience I referred to above I saw that happen to too many people.

  • soireadthisbooktoday

    You know, you may be young – that doesn’t mean you are not wise….